What Type of Relationship?

The Saying We Love

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Christianity is not a religion, it’s a relationship.” It’s a popular saying for American Christians, especially in evangelical circles, and it’s got a certain ring to it. The idea behind it is to make Christianity seem more appealing—less about dusty rituals, more about a living connection with Jesus. 

There’s something attractive there, and it’s not entirely off-base. 

After all, Jesus said, “I no longer call you servants… I have called you friends” (John 15:15). The New Testament teaches this personal dynamic—grace, faith, a God who knows us. But here’s where I want to pause: Christianity is a religion. And denying that it is a religion doesn’t just oversimplify—it misses the bigger picture of what God’s doing through the covenant relationship He created through Jesus.

Where the Phrase Holds—and Falters

Let’s take a deeper look at the saying. On one hand, it’s trying to capture something real. It pushes back against the stereotype of religion as cold formalism—think Pharisees with their rules, missing the heart of God. The “relationship” bit highlights how Christianity invites us into something intimate, transformative, and even messy as we face the challenges of maturity. It’s not wrong to say that knowing Jesus changes everything. 

But calling it “not a religion” misses the reality of how we have a relationship with God. Christianity has sacred texts (the Bible), doctrines (Trinity, atonement), rituals (baptism, communion), and disciplines (meditation, prayer, fasting). That’s religion by any definition. To ditch the term “religion” is to set up a false split—religion as the bad guy, relationship as the hero. It sounds catchy, but it is not true.

Covenant: The Bigger Frame

Here’s the thing: Christianity doesn’t need to shed “religion” to appeal to people. It’s a religion defined by a relationship—one that’s rooted in covenant. 

So what’s a covenant? It’s a sacred agreement that is binding. In the case of Christianity, it is an agreement between God and His people, that blends commitment and loyalty with purpose and promise. God doesn’t just deal with us as scattered individuals; He binds us to Himself and to each other through promises that echo across history. Think of Abraham: “I will be your God, and you will be my people” (Genesis 17:7). Or the new covenant in Jesus’ blood, sealing us as a “chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation” (1 Peter 2:9). This isn’t just a private “me and Jesus” thing—it’s a communal reality, a people set apart by God.

When “Relationship” Shrinks the Story

The “relationship, not religion” line risks shrinking God’s covenant down. It turns faith into a cozy, solo experience, sidelining the bigger, messier truth of covenant life.

Yes, it’s personal—God knows your name, your doubts, your hopes. But it’s also bigger than you. The Bible’s covenants—from Noah to Moses to Christ—always involve a community with a purpose. Israel’s whole identity was wrapped up in being God’s covenant people, even when they stumbled. The early church got it too, sharing everything and growing together (Acts 2:44-47). That’s not just a personal relationship; that’s religion lived out in the real world.

Why Covenant Matters

So why does this matter? Because leaning too hard on “relationship” alone can miss what God’s after. Covenant means we’re not just in this for ourselves. We’re tied to each other—responsible to help, forgive, and carry burdens. Galatians 6:2 says, “Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ” (NLT). That’s not optional; it’s the covenant at work. The phrase might sell books or fill pews, but it’s too small for the God who calls a nation, not just a fan club.

Reframing the Faith

Christianity is a religion, no question about it. 

Christianity is a relationship, that is absolutely correct. 

Christianity is a covenant relationship—personal and communal, intimate and expansive. Maybe the saying needs a rewrite: “Christianity isn’t just a religion—it’s a covenant that makes us God’s people.” 

Less catchy, that is true, but it holds the weight of the story.

The Right Cross at the Right Time

In December 2004, I found myself in a bind. After serving as a youth pastor for over five years at the Stronghurst Christian Church in Stronghurst, Illinois, I decided to pursue seminary with the thought of becoming a college professor. I took out a student loan and moved to Lincoln, Illinois to attend seminary. One of the big problems I faced was I couldn’t find a job. 

Meanwhile, a $3,000 credit card debt from my time in Stronghurst loomed over me, spiraling toward collections. I was helpless. It was then my dad, fresh from selling some cattle, paid it off. When I promised to repay him, he simply said, “Show me your savings account when you’ve saved $3,000.” It took a few years, but I was able to do that. In fact, that was the money I used to buy Jenny’s engagement ring and pay for our honeymoon. That act of grace from my dad is a small picture of a much bigger story.

The Bible compares sin to a debt we can’t pay. It leaves us utterly helpless, trapped in a broken world, our relationship with God fractured because we’ve chosen our way over His. There’s nothing we can do to fix it. Yet, God doesn’t abandon us. From the moment sin entered through Adam and Eve, corrupting His good creation, God set a plan in motion to rescue us—starting with those made in His image. That plan centers on love, and it unfolds most clearly on a cross. In Romans 5:6-11, the Apostle Paul unpacks this story: the problem of sin, the power of faith, and the heart of God’s love.

The Meaning of the Cross: A Sacrifice for the Undeserving

Paul writes, “When we were utterly helpless, Christ died for the ungodly at just the right time” (Romans 5:6). Our sin left us powerless, unable to undo the damage to our relationship with God, each other, and the world. Like shattered glass, it can’t be unbroken. The covenant with Israel exposed this reality, showing our separation from God and our inability to save ourselves. Yet, at the precise moment in God’s plan—“just the right time”—Jesus died for us.

Consider this: we might sacrifice our lives for someone we love—a child, a sibling, a friend. But for a stranger? A morally good person we don’t know? Unlikely. Now imagine dying for an enemy. That’s where God’s heart differs. Paul says, “God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners” (Romans 5:8). Jesus, the righteous Son, gave His life for the ungodly—not because we deserved it, but because God’s love extends to all creation. The cross is love in action, securing eternal life and a place in God’s new creation.

The Greatness of the Cross: Justification and Reconciliation

Because of the cross, we are justified—made right in God’s sight. Sin’s penalty is death, but Jesus, the sinless One, took that penalty for us. His perfect life and sacrificial death didn’t just forgive us; they restored us as citizens of God’s Kingdom. Paul also says we’re reconciled: “Our friendship with God was restored” (Romans 5:10, NLT). More than friendship, we’re welcomed back as children, no longer enemies but family.

This salvation is secure. It’s not based on our efforts but on Jesus’ finished work. Our role? Faith—trust, loyalty, and commitment to King Jesus. Justification and reconciliation are offered to all, but only those who pledge their allegiance to Him receive them. The cross is God’s great act of love, dealing with sin’s penalty and restoring what was broken.

The Joy of the Cross: Celebrating Atonement

Paul calls us to “rejoice” in this new relationship with God (Romans 5:11). Other translations say “celebrate” or “boast.” We’re to thank God for His love, proclaim His mercy, and live with joy. The South Asia Bible commentary tells of a Nepali pastor who shared that one of the truths that drew him to Jesus was that He willingly died for His enemies—a stark contrast to gods he was taught about, who sought to destroy their foes. Our God loves even the rebellious, and that’s worth shouting about.

The cross brings atonement, a term from the Old Testament meaning to cover sin and restore the covenant. Paul uses justification and reconciliation to explain this to Gentiles: Jesus’ death deals with sin, repairing our relationship with God. This joy isn’t just for new believers—it’s how we live every day. Our hope isn’t in fleeting circumstances but in God’s promises and the return of King Jesus, who will make all things right.

Living in Light of the Cross

Romans 5:6-11 reveals God’s love poured out through Jesus’ sacrifice. The cross shows us that Christ died for the undeserving, justifies us by paying sin’s penalty, and reconciles us to God’s family. Because of this, we can rejoice—no longer slaves to sin, despair, or fear. We worship a God who loves us enough to die for us. That’s worth celebrating.

Big Idea: Jesus secured our atonement on the cross so we can be justified and reconciled to God.

We live in a sin-corrupted world. Our bodies fail, relationships fracture, and pain surrounds us. But that’s not the final word. Through Jesus’ death, we can have a new relationship with God and confidence in the future. The atonement—His perfect sacrifice—deals with our sin and restores us to our Creator.

Challenge: This week, worship God with gratitude. Whether through music, prayer, or reading Psalms, express the joy of the reconciliation Jesus made possible.

Closing Thought: At just the right moment, Jesus came to rescue creation from sin’s corruption—evil, pain, disease, and death. He did it through a Roman cross, an unlikely tool for victory. His sacrifice atoned for our sins, giving us hope and a place in God’s Kingdom. Because of Jesus, we can live confidently as part of His family.

Prayer:

• Thank God for the new relationship He offers through Jesus.
• Ask forgiveness for ongoing sin.
• Commit to following King Jesus with trust and loyalty.

Let’s live in the joy of the cross, proclaiming God’s love to a world that needs to hear it.

Sunday Prayer: Awe and Gratitude

Gracious Father,

I come before You in awe and gratitude, for while I was still weak—lost in sin and far from You—Christ died for me. Not because I earned it, not because I was righteous, but because of Your overwhelming love and mercy. You sent Your Son to die for the ungodly, to rescue all of humankind when we could not rescue ourselves.

Thank You for the cross, for the blood that justifies me, and for the reconciliation I now have through Jesus. I rejoice that I am no longer Your enemy, but Your beloved child, brought near by the sacrifice of Christ. Help that truth sink deep into my heart and shape the way I live each day.

Help me to live in the joy of my salvation, to walk in the confidence of Your love, and to share the Gospel with a world still longing for hope. May I never take for granted the grace that saved me and the peace I now have with You through King Jesus.

In His mighty name I pray,

Amen.

Theology and Our Relationship with God

"Hence, the reality of faith itself — our commitment to the God revealed in Christ — calls forth theological reflection." — Stanley Grenz, Theology for the Community of God (p. 1)

As a parent of school-aged children, I frequently confront the reality that, while assisting them with their homework, I struggle to remember what they are learning. More often than I’d like to admit, I find myself turning to Google in search of the correct answers.

This experience illustrates a crucial truth: our knowledge of the world is limited. It is constrained by what we have learned, what we can recall, and the information available to us. There is no one person who possesses comprehensive knowledge about everything. Indeed, even specialists in a given field have gaps in their understanding. These gaps encourage us to engage in deeper inquiry and study.

This is true for the most important of all areas of inquiry: God.

The Need for Theological Reflection

Too often, because our contemporary culture emphasizes the “relationship” aspect of God, we feel like the study of God makes that relationship all about intellectual knowledge. We figure that because it is like a relationship, we will learn what we need along the way, through our experience. Unfortunately, this reality has contributed to the American Church not fully understanding who God is and how He expects us to live.

In a typical interpersonal relationship, we come to know another person through shared experiences. These moments reveal their character and provide us ample opportunities to engage in conversation and ask questions. However, our relationship with God operates differently. The experiences we have with Him must be interpreted through the lens of Scripture. The Bible serves as our primary source for understanding both who God is and His will for the world. Part of nurturing our relationship with God involves dedicating time to study and meditate on the Bible, which helps us in truly knowing Him.

We Are All Theologians

Many of us do not identify as theologians. For much of my life, I viewed myself simply as a Bible student, with the academic discipline of theology seeming distant and inaccessible. We often perceive theology through an academic lens, characterized by complex terminology and intricate ideas. This perception can lead to the conclusion that theology is irrelevant to our relationship with God.

It is true that theology can feel out of reach and not practical to following Jesus, but that is not all theology is. At its core, the work of theology is the work of thinking well about God. Understanding that God is the Creator is the work of theology. Knowing that God is Trinity is also the work of theology. As we think through what the Bible says about God, we are engaged in the task of theology.

Since theology is thinking well about God, then we engage in theology whenever we ponder His nature, His works, or His will for our lives. It is important for us to remember that theology is not merely an academic pursuit for scholars in seminaries; it is a necessary discipline for every believer who desires to grow in their faith. To follow Jesus faithfully requires that we take time to deepen our understanding of God through study, reflection, and application.

The Foundation of Theology

The foundation for theology is always Scripture. While it is true that nature reflects the glory of God, it is Scripture alone that provides us with the information that we need to truly understand who God is. Reading, studying, and meditating on the Bible are important parts of theology; they provide the correct input we need to think well about God. Without a solid grounding in Scripture, our thoughts about God can easily be shaped by cultural assumptions, personal experiences, or misconceptions rather than by biblical truth.

Yet, theology is not merely an individual endeavor. The Church, both historically and presently, plays a crucial role in shaping our understanding of God. Throughout history, faithful believers have wrestled with Scripture, created doctrines, and provided insights that help us think rightly about God. Engaging with the teachings of the Church helps guard against error and deepens our understanding by connecting us with the wisdom of the faithful people who have gone before us.

Theology Leads to Transformation

The goal of theology is not merely learning more information but fostering a deeper love for God and maturing our faith. Jesus taught that the greatest commandment is to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, and mind (Matthew 22:37). Loving God with our mind implies engaging in the work of theology—seeking to know Him rightly so that we may worship Him more fully and live in obedience to His will.

When we neglect theology, we risk distorting our understanding of God and living according to a false perception of Him. A faith that is not grounded in truth is susceptible to error, doubt, and instability. However, when we commit ourselves to theological reflection, we equip ourselves with the knowledge necessary to discern truth and to stand firm in our faith.

Ultimately, theology is a pursuit that leads to transformation. As we grow in our knowledge of God, our hearts are strengthened in commitment, our lives better reflect the character of Jesus, and our purpose aligns with God’s heart. Theology is not just about thinking well; it is also about living well. It is about knowing God so that we might love Him more deeply and follow Him more faithfully.