Do You Believe God Is a Good Father?

It’s easy to answer “yes” when someone asks if you believe God is a good Father. It’s the “right” answer, after all. 

But if I’m honest, my life often tells a different story. 

Too often, I it feels like God is opposed to my desires—as if He is detached or uninterested in my well-being.

John Eldredge wrote in The Way of the Wild Heart:

“You are the son of a kind, strong, and engaged Father, a Father wise enough to guide you in the Way, generous enough to provide for your journey, offering to walk with you every step.

This is perhaps the hardest thing for us to believe—really believe, down deep in our hearts, so that it changes us forever, changes the way we approach each day.”

Eldredge’s words remind me of a truth that I forget: God is my Heavenly Father. 

I have no problem with seeing God as Creator or King, but I often struggle to see Him as Father. I think this is why it is hard for me to trust that God has my best interests at heart. 

What ends up happening, since I don’t trust God to do what is right,  is I slip into believing that I have to make life work on my own—that my happiness depends entirely on me. This reality ultimately leads to a life of disappointment because I don’t have what it takes to create a life that I truly want to live.

So how do we trust God to do the right thing? How can we learn to see Him as the loving Father He truly is?

Two Ways to Deepen Our Trust in God as Father

1. Memorize Scripture About God as Our Father

The Bible repeatedly describes God as our Father, and it’s no coincidence that Jesus often used this imagery when he talked about God. Jesus knew how difficult it would be for us to grasp the concept of God as a loving and engaged father.

One passage that speaks to this is Luke 11:11-13:

“What father among you, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead of a fish? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, although you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”

The only way I know to get this truth into our hearts is to turn to Scripture and meditate on these passages that emphasize God’s goodness. The more we meditate on these verses the more likely they will be implanted into our hearts.

2. Reflect on the Blessings in Your Life

It’s easy to take God’s blessings for granted, to believe that God owes me the good things of life. What happens, when things don’t go the way I want, leads me to question His goodness—and even His presence in my life.

I believe taking time to “count our blessings” can reframe our perspective. It has worked on in my life. Simply taking time to write down 3 or 4 blessings each day has changed my perspective on life. When we reflect on how God has worked in our lives, we’re reminded of His faithfulness.

It is also important to remember that God’s greatest blessings aren’t tied to this life. When we can see the ways He has blessed our lives now, this gives us confidence that He will bless us in the future. God’s ultimate plan is for eternity, and He uses our current experiences to prepare us for the joys of heaven. Sometimes, this preparation means letting go of our own dreams to embrace His purpose for our lives.

Trusting God as Our Heavenly Father

Learning to trust God as our Father isn’t easy, but it’s essential to truly follow Jesus. If we can’t trust God, who can we trust?

God is kind, strong, and engaged. He is guiding us, providing for us, and walking with us every step of the way. I pray that we open our hearts to believe this truth—not just intellectually, but deeply and fully in our hearts, so that it changes the way we live.

Take a moment today to reflect on God’s love and goodness. He is a good Father—and He desires what is best for you.

The Way of the Pilgrim

 

William Lane, in his book Hebrews: A Call to Commitment, reminds us that as disciples of Jesus, we are pilgrims in this world. He writes,

“In the same intense way that the patriarchs sought a homeland (Hebrews 11:14), Christians seek the City which is to come (Hebrews 13:14). The people of God are called to be a pilgrim people.” (p. 161)

But what does it mean for Christians to be pilgrims?

Pilgrims Travel Toward a Destination

To be a pilgrim means we are on a journey toward a new home. Abraham didn’t know exactly where God was leading him, but he trusted the One who called him. Likewise, we may not fully grasp what the New Creation will be like, but we trust God to bring us there.

One of the weaknesses of the Western Church is our reluctance to truly talk about the importance of the Gospel. The Gospel is the Good News about God’s Kingdom coming into the world through Jesus, so we can be rescued from Satan, sin, and death. 

As I prepared my spring sermon series in 2023 called Asking for a Friend, I answered questions about death, hell, and resurrection. It hit me as I studied for those messages how little I had taught on these topics. Much of our teaching focuses on making the most of life here and now. While being good stewards of what God has given us is important, following Jesus isn’t about securing our best life now—it’s about living in anticipation of what God has prepared for us.

The Bible is clear: life is hard. It is full of struggles, disappointments, tragedies, and broken relationships. This is the reality of living in a world corrupted by sin. Our hope, then, shouldn’t be in achieving comfort or success in this life, but in the promise of life in the New Jerusalem. Being a pilgrim means setting our hope not on the American Dream but on the Kingdom of God.

Pilgrims Travel Lightly

A pilgrim doesn’t settle down but moves forward toward their destination. That means traveling lightly, letting go of what might slow them down.

We often struggle with traveling light. We want to put down roots and build a life around what we can have now. The rich young ruler couldn’t follow Jesus because he was too attached to his wealth. How many of us miss opportunities to follow Jesus because we’re too attached to our jobs, homes, hobbies, or even relationships? Instead of stepping into the unknown of a faithful life, we cling to what is familiar.

The more we have, the more we have to lose—and the more reluctant we are to take risks for God’s Kingdom. One way to break our attachment to material things is through generosity. Giving freely helps us travel lightly, keeping our hearts fixed on God rather than on what we possess.

Pilgrims Trust Their Guide

A pilgrim doesn’t know the way—they rely on a guide. We don’t know the full path ahead, so we trust God to lead us. He guides us through Scripture and the Holy Spirit, navigating us through the mountains and valleys of life.

But are we truly trusting Him if we set conditions on our obedience? Do we say, “I’ll follow You, God, but only if it doesn’t require too much sacrifice, too much giving, too much inconvenience”? Trusting God means taking the next step, even when we don’t see the whole path.

Pilgrims Travel Together

Finally, a pilgrim doesn’t travel alone. To be a Christian is to journey with others toward the same destination. The Church is a fellowship of believers—encouraging, supporting, and bearing one another’s burdens along the way.

As we move toward the New Creation, let’s remember that we are pilgrims in this world. Our eyes must stay fixed on Jesus, the One who has gone before us and prepared the way. Let’s travel lightly, holding the things of this world loosely. Let’s trust God to provide for us. And let’s walk this road together, encouraging one another as fellow pilgrims on the journey home.

Paul’s Ponderings
Reflecting on the truth that transforms.

Living Prayer

“To pray for one another as individuals or communities implies that we shall assist one another in every way for which we pray for one another; otherwise our prayers and thanksgivings for each other are mere hypocrisy.” – Alexander Campbell, The Christian System

Our actions are an extension of our prayers; they bring to life the intentions we express in our talking to God. Prayer is more than words said in solitude—it is a call to align our hearts with God’s will and to step into the world as His hands and feet. I believe it is crucial to ponder the connection between prayer and intention, the importance of backing our words with deeds, and the transformation that emerges in us and our communities when faith moves from an ideal to reality.

I. Understanding the Essence of Prayer

Prayer is both a spiritual and relational act. We see this in Paul’s instruction found in Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” 

Through prayer, we lay our hopes, fears, and desires before God, aligning our hearts with His purpose. It’s an act of trust, a declaration that we believe in His power to work in our lives and the lives of others.

Yet prayer is not solitary—it binds us to one another. James 5:16 urges, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” When we pray for our neighbors, friends, or even strangers, we lovingly pray for those around us, people in our community, lifting up their needs as if they were our own.

II. The Disconnect Between Words and Actions

Alexander Campbell’s words ring with a sobering truth: prayer without action risks becoming hypocrisy. Jesus warned against empty words in Matthew 6:7-8, saying that God sees through mindless repetitions and desires the right motivation and intention. Too often, we pray for the hungry but pass by opportunities to feed them, or we ask for peace but do little to mend broken relationships. This disconnect undermines the power of our prayers.

The apostle John drives this home in 1 John 3:18: “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” If we pray for someone’s healing but never offer a helping hand, or if we seek justice but stay silent in the face of wrong, our prayers become hollow echoes—lacking the substance of genuine faith.

III. How Actions Fulfill Prayers

Prayer and action are two sides of the same coin, a partnership in co-laboring with God. Ephesians 2:10 reminds us, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” God doesn’t merely hear our prayers—He invites us to participate in answering them.

Scripture offers vivid examples. Nehemiah prayed fervently for Jerusalem’s restoration, then rose to lead its rebuilding (Nehemiah 2:4-8). The Good Samaritan, in Luke 10:25-37, didn’t just wish well for the wounded man—he bandaged his wounds, carried him to safety, and paid for his care. These stories show that acting on our prayers breathes life into our faith. As James 2:26 declares, “As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.”

IV. Practical Ways to Act on Prayers

So how do we bridge the gap between prayer and action? Start with the causes you lift up in prayer. If you pray for the homeless, volunteer at a shelter or donate resources. If you pray for a struggling friend, follow up with a call, a meal, or a listening ear. If justice or equality weighs on your heart, advocate for change in your community.

Even small, daily actions matter. Galatians 6:2 encourages us, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.” A kind word, a shared resource, or a moment of service can turn your prayers into living expressions of love. The key is consistency—letting your deeds reflect the hopes you’ve placed before God.

V. The Transformative Power of Prayer and Action

When prayer and action unite, they deepen our faith and reshape our world. Jesus teaches in Matthew 25:35-40 that serving the hungry, the stranger, and the imprisoned is serving Him—a powerful reminder that our actions carry eternal weight. In Acts 2:42-47, the early Christians prayed together, shared their possessions, and built a community marked by unity and growth. Their faith wasn’t passive; it was alive, vibrant, and transformative.

This combination reflects God’s love to the world. As 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” When we pray and act, we become conduits of His grace, strengthening both ourselves and those around us.

Conclusion

Alexander Campbell’s insight challenges us: our prayers for one another must be more than words—they must spark action. Prayer connects us to God’s will, action fulfills its purpose, and together they transform lives and communities. As you reflect on your own prayers, ask yourself: How can my actions bring them to life? 

Let Micah 6:8 guide you: “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” In the union of prayer and action, we find the heartbeat of a living faith.

Paul’s Ponderings
Reflecting on the truth that transforms.

Shattered Dreams: An Unexpected Blessing

 

Part 1 of 4 in the "Shattered Dreams" Series

We’ve all heard it before: we matter to God. And part of us wants to believe it. But life has a way of wearing down our confidence in that truth. If God really cares about us, then why didn’t He ___________? Fill in the blank: Heal your loved one. Save your marriage. Open doors that remained shut. Make life easier.

Either (a) we’re blowing it, or (b) God is holding out on us. Or some combination of both, which is where most people land.
— John Eldredge, Waking the Dead: The Glory of a Heart Fully Alive

Take a moment to reflect on the dreams you once had for your life. What did you envision for your family, career, friendships, home, and future? If we’re honest, most of us are not living the life we imagined.

On one hand, that’s not entirely a bad thing. Many of our youthful dreams were built on unrealistic expectations. Achieving them might have led to an outcome far different from what we expected—perhaps even worse. Think of the lives of celebrities who have everything we think would bring happiness, yet struggle with addiction, depression, and broken relationships. Or consider if you had married your first crush—would it have truly been a fairy tale?

We recognize that not all unfulfilled dreams are tragic. Yet, there are dreams we believe are essential to our happiness. The single person might believe that marriage is the key to joy, while a married person may long for the freedom of singleness. We might think a specific job, possession, or achievement will finally make us content. And when those things do not happen—or are taken away—we feel crushed. We cry out, “God, don’t You care about my happiness? I thought You loved me!” And often, we are met with silence. We pray, plead, and wait, but God seems unresponsive.

But does silence mean God doesn’t care? Scripture tells us otherwise. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you (1 Peter 5:7, NLT). This leaves us with a dilemma: either the Bible is untrue, or God has a different plan for our lives than we expected.

I am convinced that God’s plan is far greater than our own. The challenge is that His definition of a “wonderful life” often looks nothing like ours. We dream of being served, but God calls us to serve. We dream of financial abundance, but God calls us to generosity. We dream of recognition, but God calls us to humility and quiet faithfulness. To lead us into His better plan, God often allows our dreams to break.

Why? Because as long as we cling to our own visions of happiness, we prioritize achieving them over pursuing holiness. That is the fundamental difference between our dreams and God’s: we long for comfort, but He desires our transformation. We seek happiness, but He seeks our holiness.

What Is Holiness?

Holiness is a word we use in church, but rarely in everyday conversation. I like to define it simply as being separated from the ordinary. Through salvation, God sets us apart from the world because His people are to represent Him in everything we do. Holiness is both the position we have in God’s Kingdom and the calling He has placed on our lives.

Because of this call to holiness, shattered dreams are not the end of life—they are the beginning of something better. They force us to shift our focus from temporary fulfillment to the eternal purpose found in the Kingdom. When our dreams crumble, we are invited into a deeper trust—a faith that rests not on our circumstances but on God Himself.

So, what if our broken dreams are actually God’s mercy? What if, in allowing them to fall apart, He is leading us to something infinitely better? The question is not whether God cares—it’s whether we are willing to trust that His dreams for us are better than our own.

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Stay tuned for Part 2 in the "Shattered Dreams" series as we continue exploring how God’s plan transforms our understanding of life and fulfillment.

Lessons from the King: Don’t Worry

 

The Struggle Between Earthly and Heavenly Priorities

Imagine sorting your life into three categories: rubber, metal, and glass. Tim Sanders, former chief solutions officer at Yahoo! and author of Love Is the Killer App, uses this analogy to explain how we handle life’s ups and downs. Rubber things—like missing a Seahawks game—bounce back with little fuss. Metal things—like missing an important meeting—clang loudly when dropped, causing temporary chaos but nothing irreparable. Then there’s glass—the irreplaceable treasures like your marriage, family, deepest relationships, and spiritual well-being. When glass shatters, no amount of effort can fully restore it.

The challenge is clear: we all know what’s "glass" in our lives. So, what’s our priority? What’s the one thing we should devote ourselves to, the thing that puts everything else into place? Jesus has been teaching about the heart—our desires, beliefs, thoughts, and will. He’s shown us that the condition of our hearts determines whether we’re citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven. At the core of that heart must be faithfulness. Without it, we can’t belong to God’s Kingdom. Today’s text, Matthew 6:19-34, brings this truth into sharp focus.

Last week, we saw how Jesus emphasized motivation over mere actions in spiritual disciplines. If we pray, give, or fast to impress others, we’ve already received our reward. But if we do these things to connect with God and honor Him, He blesses us with answered prayer and a place in His Kingdom. That sets the stage for today’s lesson: trusting God completely. Let’s walk through the text together.

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Storing Up True Treasure (vv. 19-21)

Jesus begins, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.” Earthly treasures—money, possessions, status—are temporary. Moths eat them, rust corrodes them, thieves take them. Why spend your life chasing what won’t last? Instead, store up treasures in heaven—love, generosity, kindness, forgiveness—the character traits of Kingdom citizens. These are eternal.

Where your treasure is, Jesus says, there your heart will be. What we value shapes our devotion. Are we truly invested in God’s Kingdom, or are we just paying it lip service? Ask yourself: What’s more important—investments or spiritual maturity?

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A Clear or Clouded Vision (vv. 22-23)

Next, Jesus says, “The eye is the lamp of the body.” Our spiritual perception guides our lives. A healthy eye—one focused generously on God—brings light, helping us see what He values and grow in His character. But an unhealthy eye—stingy and fixated on wealth—plunges us into darkness. Greed blinds us to truth and robs us of the life God intends.

What dominates your vision: God’s Kingdom or worldly wealth?

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The Danger of Divided Devotion (v. 24)

Here’s the heart of the Sermon on the Mount: “No one can serve two masters.” Jesus pits God against money (or "Mammon"). He’s not saying money itself is evil—only that serving it is idolatry. Devotion to wealth competes with devotion to God. When God is in His rightful place, money and possessions fall into theirs. Jesus forces a choice: we’ll love one and despise the other.

So, who rules your heart—God or materialism?

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Overcoming Worry with Trust (vv. 25-32)

Jesus commands, “Do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink.” Worry stems from a lack of trust in God’s provision—the opposite of “Give us today our daily bread.” This doesn’t mean we ignore responsibilities or stop working hard. It means trusting God to provide.

Look at the birds—they don’t fret over food, yet God feeds them. Consider the lilies—they don’t toil, yet God clothes them beautifully. If God cares for them, how much more will He care for us, His children? Worry is futile—it doesn’t add a day to our lives. Worse, it’s what pagans do. Kingdom citizens trust God instead.

Does your worry reveal a heart not fully trusting Him?

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The Key to True Security: Seeking God’s Kingdom (vv. 33-34)

“Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you.” That’s the antidote to worry. Prioritize God’s will—live by faith, trust, holiness, and disciple-making—and He’ll meet your needs, often through His people, the church. Align your life with His purposes, and trust Him daily.

Don’t be consumed by tomorrow—God’s got it covered. Shift your focus: seek God first, and let Him handle the rest.

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Who Do You Trust?

Jesus didn’t just teach this—He lived it. He surrendered everything to the Father, even His life on the cross, so we could become Kingdom citizens. We’re called to trust God to mature us, guide us, and provide for us. The Kingdom of Heaven is better than the reality we know now, and God will supply what we need if we stop worrying about the details.

It’s easy to say we trust God, but our focus—what we pursue—and our worries—what we dwell on—reveal the truth. How do we grow in trust? Through spiritual disciplines: prayer, gratitude, and meditating on Scripture.

Here’s the challenge:

Surrender your worries and seek God first. Examine what concerns you, confess it to God, ask Him to build your trust, and then do your part—handle your responsibilities while leaving the rest to Him.

We can’t serve two masters. Citizens of the Kingdom trust God with their treasures, needs, and future because He’s the only Master worth serving.

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Prayer

Thank God for Jesus, who made you part of His Kingdom. Ask Him to teach you to trust Him fully. Commit to following the Holy Spirit’s guidance. If God’s calling you to follow Jesus more closely today, don’t wait—take that next step.

The Parable of the Soils: Hearing and Bearing Fruit

The Parable of the Sower (or more accurately, the Parable of the Soils) in Matthew 13:1-23 is one of Jesus’ most well-known teachings. It not only reveals the different ways people respond to God’s Word but also highlights the importance of having a heart that truly receives the Gospel and bears fruit.

A Familiar Scene for an Agricultural Audience

Jesus often used parables—stories that take common human experiences and compare them with the Kingdom of God—to communicate truth in a way that was both accessible and challenging. The setting of this parable was familiar to His audience: a farmer sowing (planting) seed. In ancient Palestine, sowing was often done before plowing, meaning the seed could fall on various types of soil, each affecting its ability to grow.

Jesus describes four types of soil:

1. The Path – Hard and compacted, where the seed cannot penetrate and is quickly snatched away.

2. Rocky Ground – Shallow soil over limestone, where seeds sprout quickly but lack the depth to sustain growth.

3. Thorny Ground – Soil where thorns and weeds choke out the young plants.

4. Good Soil – Deep, fertile soil that produces a bountiful harvest.

What Is the Seed?

Jesus explains that the seed represents the Word of God—the message of the kingdom (Matt. 13:19). Just as a seed contains the potential for life, the Gospel carries the power to transform lives when it takes root in a receptive heart.

However, just hearing the Word is not enough. A seed must take root, grow, and bear fruit. The effectiveness of the seed is not in question—it is the same for all soils. What determines the outcome is the condition of the soil, or the state of a person’s heart.

Interpreting the Soils: Responses to God’s Word

When Jesus later explains the parable to His disciples (vv. 18-23), He makes it clear that the soils represent different responses to the Gospel:

• The Path (Hardened Hearts) – These are those who hear the word but do not understand it. Like the seed snatched away by birds, Satan steals the truth before it can take root.

• The Rocky Ground (Shallow Commitment) – These people receive the message with joy but have no depth. When trials or persecution come, they quickly fall away.

• The Thorny Ground (Divided Hearts) – Here, the worries of life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke out the word, preventing spiritual fruit.

• The Good Soil (Faithful Hearts) – These are those who hear, understand, and bear fruit—showing perseverance and true transformation.

The Call to Listen and Respond

Jesus concludes with a challenge: “He who has ears, let him hear” (v. 9). The parable isn’t just about hearing the word—it’s about truly receiving it in a way that produces a life of faithfulness and fruitfulness.

This parable challenges us to examine our own hearts: Are we receptive to God’s Word? Do we allow trials, distractions, or materialism to hinder our growth? Or are we cultivating a heart that is open, obedient, and fruitful for God’s kingdom?

The harvest is plentiful for those who truly listen.

Why I Still Follow Jesus

Why do I still follow Jesus Christ? 

For me, it comes down to purpose—a call that God has woven into my life. Jesus didn’t just ask His first disciples to drop their nets and believe a set of ideas; He invited them into something bigger: “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men” (Matthew 4:19). That same invitation echoes today. We’re made for good works (Ephesians 2:10), not just to hold to a set of doctrines and beliefs, but to actually live those truths. In other words, following Jesus isn’t about checking off a list of doctrines—it’s about joining a movement that changes the world, through the simplest acts of love (Matthew 25:31-46).

Of course, plenty of Christians fall short of this calling, but that doesn’t make the calling invalid. Rather, it reminds us that we need help in living this calling out in our lives. As followers of Jesus, we’re meant to bring light to our families, communities, and nations. The Church, at its best, is God’s love in action.

The purpose I have as a follower of Jesus depends on two important choices. It depends on my choice to be faithful to King Jesus in every area of my life. I can only live this calling out if I am faithful. The second choice is the choice to love. Jesus taught that the most important commandment is to love: to love God and to love people. If I am not going to love, then it is impossible for me to live out the purpose of my life.

Now, compare that to what I’ll call the “evangelical atheist.” Their message urges people to abandon belief in God—but what’s the replacement? Do they genuinely think a world without God would be better? If so, where’s the proof? History doesn’t exactly back them up. And when they reject the source of goodness and love, what’s left to inspire kindness or sacrifice?

That’s not to say atheists can’t be moral or altruistic—many are. But they lack a foundation to call others to a life that seeks to make this world a better place. Without an absolute moral standard, they rely on shifting personal or cultural ideals, which is shaky ground when human nature often prioritizes self-interest over the suffering of others. Atheism critiques but doesn’t construct; it deconstructs faith yet offers no compelling alternative that can inspire, unite, or transform people and culture.

Faith in Jesus is not just about our self-interest. It calls us to something greater. The New Testament teachings this truth over and over again—Jesus commands us to love God and others (Matthew 22:34-40), Paul urges us to serve selflessly (Romans 12, Galatians 6, Ephesians 2:10), James reminds us that faith without works is dead (James 1:27), Peter exhorts us to bless others (1 Peter 3:9), and John emphasizes love in action (1 John 3:16-18). Disciples of Jesus are not just encouraged to love—we’re expected to. It’s central to our calling.

What’s amazing is how this call to love is for everyone. No one is incapable of loving. If morality were merely a personal construct, we’d have an innumerable number of ideas about what is right and wrong —forcing everyone to champion the causes they believe to be most important, whether climate change, poverty, or global suffering. That’s a recipe for burnout and division, especially since we cannot agree on what’s most important.

Christianity changes that. God sets a moral standard, calls us to love Him and others, and then gives us the freedom to bring our unique gifts to the table. The metaphor of being the Body of Christ nails it (Romans 12:3-5, 1 Corinthians 12:12-31)—we are different parts of the body with distinct roles (Romans 12:6-8, 1 Peter 4:7-11). God’s plan is a Church full of individuals, each equipped to tackle the world’s brokenness in their own way.

 None of us can meet the world’s brokenness on our own, but when we work together we can make a difference.

So, I follow Jesus—doubts and all—because this call isn’t just about my personal relationship with Jesus; it’s about God’s people working together to influence the world. It’s about serving those around me and carrying God’s love into the world, all the while partnering with others. In living it out the calling to love and serve, I discover the life I was made for. And honestly? I want others to find that life too.

Theology and Our Relationship with God

"Hence, the reality of faith itself — our commitment to the God revealed in Christ — calls forth theological reflection." — Stanley Grenz, Theology for the Community of God (p. 1)

As a parent of school-aged children, I frequently confront the reality that, while assisting them with their homework, I struggle to remember what they are learning. More often than I’d like to admit, I find myself turning to Google in search of the correct answers.

This experience illustrates a crucial truth: our knowledge of the world is limited. It is constrained by what we have learned, what we can recall, and the information available to us. There is no one person who possesses comprehensive knowledge about everything. Indeed, even specialists in a given field have gaps in their understanding. These gaps encourage us to engage in deeper inquiry and study.

This is true for the most important of all areas of inquiry: God.

The Need for Theological Reflection

Too often, because our contemporary culture emphasizes the “relationship” aspect of God, we feel like the study of God makes that relationship all about intellectual knowledge. We figure that because it is like a relationship, we will learn what we need along the way, through our experience. Unfortunately, this reality has contributed to the American Church not fully understanding who God is and how He expects us to live.

In a typical interpersonal relationship, we come to know another person through shared experiences. These moments reveal their character and provide us ample opportunities to engage in conversation and ask questions. However, our relationship with God operates differently. The experiences we have with Him must be interpreted through the lens of Scripture. The Bible serves as our primary source for understanding both who God is and His will for the world. Part of nurturing our relationship with God involves dedicating time to study and meditate on the Bible, which helps us in truly knowing Him.

We Are All Theologians

Many of us do not identify as theologians. For much of my life, I viewed myself simply as a Bible student, with the academic discipline of theology seeming distant and inaccessible. We often perceive theology through an academic lens, characterized by complex terminology and intricate ideas. This perception can lead to the conclusion that theology is irrelevant to our relationship with God.

It is true that theology can feel out of reach and not practical to following Jesus, but that is not all theology is. At its core, the work of theology is the work of thinking well about God. Understanding that God is the Creator is the work of theology. Knowing that God is Trinity is also the work of theology. As we think through what the Bible says about God, we are engaged in the task of theology.

Since theology is thinking well about God, then we engage in theology whenever we ponder His nature, His works, or His will for our lives. It is important for us to remember that theology is not merely an academic pursuit for scholars in seminaries; it is a necessary discipline for every believer who desires to grow in their faith. To follow Jesus faithfully requires that we take time to deepen our understanding of God through study, reflection, and application.

The Foundation of Theology

The foundation for theology is always Scripture. While it is true that nature reflects the glory of God, it is Scripture alone that provides us with the information that we need to truly understand who God is. Reading, studying, and meditating on the Bible are important parts of theology; they provide the correct input we need to think well about God. Without a solid grounding in Scripture, our thoughts about God can easily be shaped by cultural assumptions, personal experiences, or misconceptions rather than by biblical truth.

Yet, theology is not merely an individual endeavor. The Church, both historically and presently, plays a crucial role in shaping our understanding of God. Throughout history, faithful believers have wrestled with Scripture, created doctrines, and provided insights that help us think rightly about God. Engaging with the teachings of the Church helps guard against error and deepens our understanding by connecting us with the wisdom of the faithful people who have gone before us.

Theology Leads to Transformation

The goal of theology is not merely learning more information but fostering a deeper love for God and maturing our faith. Jesus taught that the greatest commandment is to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, and mind (Matthew 22:37). Loving God with our mind implies engaging in the work of theology—seeking to know Him rightly so that we may worship Him more fully and live in obedience to His will.

When we neglect theology, we risk distorting our understanding of God and living according to a false perception of Him. A faith that is not grounded in truth is susceptible to error, doubt, and instability. However, when we commit ourselves to theological reflection, we equip ourselves with the knowledge necessary to discern truth and to stand firm in our faith.

Ultimately, theology is a pursuit that leads to transformation. As we grow in our knowledge of God, our hearts are strengthened in commitment, our lives better reflect the character of Jesus, and our purpose aligns with God’s heart. Theology is not just about thinking well; it is also about living well. It is about knowing God so that we might love Him more deeply and follow Him more faithfully.

The Journey of Christian Spiritual Formation

 Spiritual formation in Christ is a deliberate and structured journey. While God can work through chaos, He has chosen to engage with us through intentional and clear pathways. Instead of passively wondering what God is up to in our lives, we are called to embrace the means He has provided for our growth. These pathways are revealed in Scripture, particularly through the life and teachings of Jesus Christ.

Life in our modern American culture is fast and busy. Since it is easy to have a full schedule it is tempting to “go with the flow.” This path of least resistance requires little effort but allows our culture to be the greatest influence in our spiritual formation. Many Christians struggle with spiritual maturity because we allow ourselves to drift instead of actively engaging the means to become more like Jesus.

Even so, God is gracious. He brings healing and transformation to our lives, even when we fail to fully engage in the process of our own spiritual development. This is a profound reminder of His goodness and love toward us, even in our shortcomings.

One challenge in discussing spiritual formation is the fear of being misunderstood as promoting “salvation by works.” This often leads to an emphasis on faith, which can, unfortunately, be reduced to intellectual agreement to doctrine and adherence to a certain moral standard. While truth is essential, faith is far more than believing the right things.

Biblical faith is defined by trust, commitment, and obedience—qualities that are reflected in how we live. Spiritual formation, then, is an active process that is to result in good works. These works are the fruit of genuine faith.

The journey of spiritual formation has a clear starting point: repentance. Jesus emphasized repentance throughout His ministry. In Matthew 4:17 (NLT), He declared, “Repent of your sins and turn to God, for the Kingdom of Heaven is near.”

Repentance is not just feeling regret or making a confession; it is a true shift in our loyalties. Sin is rebellion against God and His Kingdom, and through repentance, we consciously change our allegiance. This act of turning away from the world and turning to God signifies a new loyalty—a declaration of citizenship in the Kingdom of Heaven.

True repentance is foundational to spiritual formation. It is not merely a formality but an act of faith: a decision to trust, commit, and obey God. From this starting point, our journey begins, and as we continue, God works within us to transform us into the likeness of King Jesus.

As we pursue spiritual formation, it is crucial that we remain both intentional and humble, allowing God to guide us. The process may be challenging, but it is the path to becoming who we were created to be in King Jesus—a journey of purpose, growth, and grace.

Moving Beyond the Shallow: Deepening Our Prayer Lives

Prayer can often be a source of frustration for me—not just in my own practice, but also when observing how others pray. It’s not that the intentions behind these prayers are wrong. In fact, they are often heartfelt and sincere. Yet at times, the focus seems misplaced and shallow. Perhaps “shallow” isn’t the perfect word, so let me explain.

By “shallow,” I’m referring to how our prayers tend to center on what we can see and touch—physical health, finances, safety, and other tangible concerns. While these are undoubtedly important, I can’t help but feel we often neglect something far greater: the deeper, unseen aspects of our spiritual lives.

Take, for example, Paul’s prayer for the believers in Colossae:

“For this reason also, since the day we heard this, we haven’t stopped praying for you. We are asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, so that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him: bearing fruit in every good work and growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, so that you may have great endurance and patience, joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has enabled you to share in the saints’ inheritance in the light. He has rescued us from the domain of darkness and transferred us into the kingdom of the Son he loves. In him we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.” (Colossians 1:9–14, CSB)

Notice the content of Paul’s prayer. He doesn’t focus on physical ailments, financial stability, or protection from harm. Instead, his focus is on the spiritual formation of believers. He asks God to fill them with wisdom and spiritual understanding so they can live in a way that honors Jesus. Paul prays for their spiritual growth, strength, and gratitude for God’s blessings.

Paul’s prayer centers entirely on the spiritual reality that shapes their identity and purpose.

Contrast this with the typical prayers we hear during worship or small group gatherings. Most prayers are for physical realities—provision, healing, or safety. Let me be clear: these are entirely appropriate things to pray for. God desires us to bring our daily needs and concerns to Him.

However, the problem arises when we focus exclusively on physical needs at the expense of deeper spiritual realities. When we do that, we risk becoming fixated on the visible, tangible world while ignoring the unseen part of our existence—the part that holds eternal significance.

When people are struggling, it is good and proper to ask God to intervene in their circumstances. This is part of our responsibility as Christians. But we must also remember that spiritual maturity is essential to discipleship. We need to pray for one another’s faith, strength, understanding, and wisdom—these are critical for our spiritual formation.

A question worth pondering is: Why do we often default to praying for the physical rather than the spiritual?

Personally, I’ve struggled with the concept of the spiritual. It has sometimes felt intangible, almost unreal. In a world that often dismisses spiritual matters as mythical or irrelevant, it’s been easy for me to overlook.

Additionally, I once equated “spiritual” with “emotional.” Since I believed emotions were unreliable, I avoided anything I perceived as emotional—including the spiritual dimensions of prayer.

These are just a couple of reasons I’ve gravitated toward praying for the familiar and tangible physical realities of life, while avoiding the deeper spiritual dimensions that are just as important.

I believe the key to revitalizing our prayer life is to shift our focus. What if we intentionally made time in our prayers—both private and public—to pray like Paul did in Colossians 1:9–14?

Instead of focusing solely on healing and provision, we could also pray for God’s wisdom, strength, and transformative power to work in our hearts. Prayer has the potential to reshape our lives, but we must ask for what we truly need to be transformed.

As Jesus taught in Matthew 6:33:

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.”

This verse challenges us to prioritize God’s kingdom and spiritual matters over worldly concerns.

Similarly, Romans 8:26–27 reassures us:

“The Spirit also helps us in our weakness, because we do not know what to pray for as we should, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with inexpressible groanings. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because he intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.”

Even when spiritual realities feel distant or unclear, God’s Spirit intercedes on our behalf, guiding our prayers toward what truly matters.

Now is the time to deepen our prayer lives—to move from the shallow end, where we ask only for our physical needs, to the deep end, where we ask God for the spiritual wisdom and understanding we need to represent King Jesus in everything we say and do.

Let’s begin praying in ways that transform not just our circumstances, but also our hearts and lives.