Marriage Was God’s Idea

“Marriage was his idea, after all. God created marriage, and put the desire in our hearts… the hopeful truth is that marriage is something God cares deeply about—including your marriage.”

— John and Stasi Eldredge, Love and War

We form all kinds of relationships in life—at work, in our neighborhoods, within the church, and among family and friends. Yet among all of them, marriage stands apart. It’s a relationship built on a promise, a covenant meant to anchor a home and nurture the next generation.

For Christians, marriage is more than romance or a practical partnership. It is a sacred covenant established by God Himself. Because marriage is His idea, it comes with His wisdom for how we were meant to live, flourish, and love. It is not simply the union of two people, but a reflection of God’s design for companionship, intimacy, and mutual support.

This is why the Eldredges’ reminder matters: “Marriage was his idea, after all.” 

When we lose sight of that, we risk treating marriage lightly, and the consequences ripple out into our families and communities. Marriage is part of the structure God built into creation for human thriving.

From the very beginning, Scripture shows us God’s heart: “It is not good for the man to be alone.” God designed men and women in His image, uniquely designed to complement one another. The longing for companionship isn’t an accident—it’s God-given. And marriage is one of the primary places where that longing finds its deepest expression. Through marriage families begin, communities grow, and lives are shaped. None of us were made to live life in isolation.

Even with all the complexities that relationships bring, this truth remains: marriage is a gift from God. Across cultures and throughout history, marriage has been honored as a sacred institution—not invented by society, but woven by God into the fabric of human life.

Malachi 2:16 (NLT) reminds us of the seriousness of this covenant:

“For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel.

“To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,”

says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies.

“So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

In Malachi’s day, men held nearly all the power in marriage. God’s words protected vulnerable wives and called husbands to cherish, not discard. While our culture today looks different, the call remains the same: love faithfully. Love may draw a husband and wife together, but faithfulness is what keeps them together.

Just as God’s covenant holds through His faithfulness, a Christian marriage thrives when husband and wife remain steadfast—both to one another and to God. When faithfulness falters, love cannot endure.

In an age of temporary connections and shifting values, God’s design for marriage offers something we desperately need: a place of safety, steadiness, and growth. In a world wrestling with loneliness, anxiety, and brokenness, healthy and faithful marriages shine with quiet strength.

Marriage was—and still is—God’s idea. When we honor it, nurture it, and commit to it, we join Him in His good design for the flourishing of our families, our churches, and our world.

Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

The Savior Is Born

Text: Romans 5:6–11

Every Christmas season we remember and meditate on the story Christians have told for two thousand years: Gabriel’s announcement to Mary, Joseph’s reassurance in a dream, the angels filling the sky with glory, the shepherds rushing to Bethlehem, and the wise men traveling far to worship the newborn King. These are not fables or moral tales. Matthew and Luke intentionally ground their narratives in real places, real rulers, and real people.

The Christian faith does not rest on myth or borrowed mythology. It rests on history. Jesus is not an idea or a symbol—He is the Son of God who became truly human and entered our world.

And this is why Paul’s words in Romans 5:6–11 are such a fitting commentary on Christmas.

At the Right Time

Paul begins with a simple but profound statement: “For while we were still helpless, at the right time…”

In that one sentence he reveals two truths we cannot ignore.

First, we are helpless.

We cannot save ourselves from death. We cannot restore our relationship with God. We cannot undo the corruption that sin has brought into God’s good creation. On our own, we do not climb our way back to Him. We needed help—real, divine help.

Second, God acted at the right time.

History did not drift along until Jesus showed up. God orchestrated it. He prepared Israel—a people who knew His word and His promises. He prepared the Roman world—an empire knit together by roads, travel, and a shared language that made the spread of the gospel possible. He used the tension between Rome and Israel to create a longing for rescue and a hope for the Messiah.

From a historical perspective, it was the perfect moment.

From a divine perspective, it was the appointed moment.

Christmas reminds us that God is not distant. He is actively involved in human history—moving, guiding, arranging, and fulfilling His purposes.

Why the Savior Came

Paul goes on to explain the reason Jesus came. The child laid in a manger grew to become the man who would lay down His life.

Jesus came to save us from God’s wrath—the righteous judgment reserved for all who have rebelled against Him. Sin shattered the good world God created and broke the relationship we were meant to enjoy with Him. Instead of living as His people, we became His enemies.

But Jesus also came to reconcile us to God. Through His death and resurrection, the relationship sin destroyed is restored. The enemies of God become the children of God. Those separated from Him are brought near. Those without hope receive life.

Paul sums it up beautifully:

“But God proves his own love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” — Romans 5:8 (CSB)

Here is the heartbeat of Christmas: God’s love.

• It is God’s love that orchestrated the events of history so the time would be right.
• It is God’s love that took the initiative when we were helpless.
• It is God’s love that sent Jesus—born in humility, crucified in sacrifice, raised in victory.
• It is God’s love that establishes a new covenant between God and humanity.

All of it—every detail of the story—is driven by His love.

Receiving and Reflecting God’s Love

As we celebrate Christmas, it’s easy to get swept up in the activity and the emotion of the season. But Christmas invites us to pause long enough to remember what stands at the center of everything: the love of God displayed in the birth of Jesus.

This love is not sentimental.

It is not seasonal.

It is sacrificial, purposeful, and powerful.

And because God has poured His love into us, we are called to let that love flow out of us. Christmas is not only a time to remember what God has done, but a time to allow His love to shape our own actions.

So this Christmas:

• Receive God’s love with gratitude. 
• Let His love drive out fear, shame, and guilt. 
• Allow His love to overflow from your life into the lives of the people around you.

The Savior is born.

The helpless have hope.

The enemies of God are invited home.

And the love of God continues to transform the world—one heart at a time.

Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

The Word Brings Light

Text: John 1:6–13

Have you ever tried to find something in complete darkness? You know the feeling—arms outstretched, moving slowly, unsure of what you might bump into next. Darkness doesn’t just hide things; it disorients us. It creates anxiety. It leaves us unsure of where we are and where we’re going.

John’s Gospel tells us that Jesus didn’t come merely to offer helpful information or moral advice. He came as the true Light, the One who illuminates every person (John 1:9). Before John reveals the Light Himself, however, he introduces us to a man sent to prepare the way.

Christmas reminds us that God did not leave us stumbling in the dark. At Christmas, the Light entered our world—not as a spotlight from heaven, but as a child in a manger. The incarnation is God stepping into human darkness, taking on flesh, and dwelling among us. Christmas is not just about warmth, nostalgia, or tradition; it is the celebration of divine Light breaking into a dark world, offering hope, clarity, and life where there was once only shadow.

A Witness to the Light

“There was a man sent from God whose name was John” (John 1:6).

John the Baptist was not the Light. He never claimed to be. His entire purpose was to point beyond himself—to testify about the Light so that others might believe. John was certainly unique: strange clothes, an unusual diet, preaching repentance in the wilderness. But his oddness wasn’t the point. His obedience was.

John understood his role. He didn’t chase influence or authority. He didn’t build a platform centered on himself. He faithfully proclaimed the truth, calling people to repentance and pointing them toward the coming Savior. Though he held no political power, he spoke with undeniable authority because he spoke God’s truth. And even when that faithfulness cost him his life—when he confronted Herod’s sin—John did not waver.

There’s an important lesson here for us. Like John, we are not the source of God’s light—we are witnesses to it. Jesus is the true Light. We simply reflect Him. Our calling is not to present our own ideas, opinions, or clever solutions as the answer. Our calling is to point people to Jesus.

It’s worth asking ourselves: When people look at my life, do they see me—or do they see Jesus?

The Light Has Come for Everyone

John makes a bold and beautiful claim: Jesus is “the true light that gives light to everyone” (v. 9).

No exceptions.

Not too broken.

Not too young.

Not too far gone.

Not from the wrong background.

Jesus didn’t come only for the religious or the morally impressive. He came into the world for every person. The Light shines universally, offering illumination and hope to all who will receive Him. Wherever you are right now—whatever your story—the Light has come for you.

The Tragedy of Rejection

Yet John also names a heartbreaking reality. “He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him” (v. 10). Even more tragic, “He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him” (v. 11).

This rejection follows a familiar pattern. Humanity has often resisted God’s ways. Israel rejected the law at Sinai. The prophets were ignored and persecuted. Now, the Light Himself is rejected.

Why? Because light exposes. It reveals what we would rather keep hidden. A world organized in rebellion against God often prefers darkness, not because the light is unclear, but because the light is uncomfortable.

It’s like flipping on the lights in a messy room. Some people immediately reach for the switch to turn them back off—not because they doubt the light exists, but because they don’t want to deal with what the light reveals.

Sometimes we don’t reject Jesus because we question who He is. Sometimes we reject Him because we fear what His light will expose and change in us.

The Promise of New Life

But John doesn’t end with rejection. He ends with hope.

“To all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” (v. 12). This new birth isn’t earned through effort, ancestry, or willpower. It is a gift—born of God, given by grace.

In the Old Testament, Israel was called God’s child as a nation. Now, through faith in Jesus, anyone—Jew or Gentile—can be personally adopted into God’s family. Receiving the Light means being made new from the inside out: new desires, new motives, new life.

Christianity, at its core, is not about trying harder to be good. It is about receiving Jesus and allowing Him to transform us.

What Will You Do with the Light?

The true Light has come into the world.

Jesus is the Light sent by God—revealing truth, exposing darkness, and giving new life. The question isn’t whether Jesus is the Light. John’s Gospel makes that clear.

The real question is: What will you do with Him?

You can ignore the Light and remain lost in darkness.

You can run from the Light to hide what you don’t want exposed.

Or you can step into the Light, receive Him, and become a child of God.

“Lord Jesus, You are the true Light that shines in our darkness. Thank You for coming for everyone, including me. Help me not just to know about You, but to receive You—to believe in Your name and walk as a child of God. Amen.”

Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

Sunday Prayer: Thank God for His Love

Gracious and merciful God,

We come before You humbled and grateful. When we were helpless and lost, You did not turn away from us. At just the right time, You sent Jesus to give His life for us—not because we were righteous or deserving, but because of Your great and unfailing love.

Thank You for loving us while we were still sinners, for meeting us in our brokenness, and for making a way for us to be made right with You through the blood of Christ. We confess that we often forget the depth of the sacrifice made on our behalf. Help us to live each day in awe of Your grace and mercy.

Assure our hearts that we are no longer condemned, but saved and reconciled through Jesus. Shape our lives so that Your love is reflected in the way we love others—freely, sacrificially, and without condition. We place our hope in You alone, trusting fully in the salvation You have given us.

Amen.

Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

Loving First Within the Family of God

Hebrews 6:10–12 (NLT)

For God is not unjust. He will not forget how hard you have worked for him and how you have shown your love to him by caring for other believers, as you still do. Our great desire is that you will keep on loving others as long as life lasts, in order to make certain that what you hope for will come true. Then you will not become spiritually dull and indifferent. Instead, you will follow the example of those who are going to inherit God’s promises because of their faith and patience.

The heartbeat of the Christian life is love. Jesus said the world would recognize His disciples by the way we love one another (John 13:35). Love is what sets us apart and makes the church a light in a dark and hurting world.

In this passage, the writer of Hebrews highlights an important truth: we show our love for God by caring for other believers. That may sound surprising—shouldn’t we love everyone equally? Doesn’t God love the whole world?

Yes, God loves the world and desires all people to be saved. But Scripture makes it clear that His love for the church is unique. We are His children, His people, the bride of Christ. Just as a mother loves her own children differently than she loves her students, or a husband loves his wife in a way he doesn’t love his friends, God’s love for His people has a depth and intimacy unlike any other.

And because of that, we are called to love one another first. This isn’t favoritism—it’s family. When the church loves itself well, it becomes a place of belonging for those who are searching for hope. A world filled with rejection and heartache is desperate to see a community where grace, forgiveness, and genuine care are lived out. Loving each other doesn’t shut the world out; it makes the gospel more beautiful to those looking in.

Loving one another also shapes us spiritually. Sermons and studies are important, but deep transformation happens in community. As we serve, forgive, and share life with fellow believers, God forms His heart within us. Our desires begin to align with His. We grow in patience, faith, and passion for the things that matter most.

The great men and women of faith weren’t set apart because of knowledge alone, but because they desired what God desired. They were willing to sacrifice for His purposes because His heart had become their own.

If we want to become the people God created us to be, we must start here: loving one another in the family of God. From that love, our hearts expand to embrace the world around us. And as we do, we reflect the God who loved us first.