The Wisdom of Humility

It is great to have opinions.

As we interact with the world, we naturally form opinions to help us make sense of what is happening around us. This is part of being human—we interpret, analyze, and come to conclusions. Our opinions shape our choices, how we engage with others, and even how we vote or spend money.

But here’s the problem: more often than not, our opinions are formed without all the information. Usually we only have part of story or the information we have is biased in a particular direction. We rarely have the entire story. News outlets, social media feeds, and even our own conversations often highlight one angle, one perspective, or one set of “facts.” Sadly, even with our limited knowledge, we still feel like we know the truth. This becomes a problem when we cling tightly to that sense of certainty, which in turn sets us up for pride.

That’s why I believe that humility is such an essential mark of wisdom.

Proverbs 11:2 (NLT) says:

“Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.”

This verse reminds us that wisdom isn’t primarily about how much we know—it’s about the posture of our heart. Wisdom flows out of humility because humility admits, “I don’t know everything. I could be wrong. I might be missing something.” That doesn’t mean we never speak with conviction, but it does mean we carry our convictions with open hands rather than clenched fists.

The Gaps in Our Knowledge

One of the hardest things for us to admit is that our perspective is incomplete. Each of us has blind spots. We all see through a particular lens shaped by our upbringing, our culture, our experiences, and even our personalities. When we forget this, we can easily fall into the trap of arrogance—believing that our opinion is the truth.

Humility allows us to slow down and say, “I may not have or understand all the facts.”That acknowledgment doesn’t make us weak—it makes us gracious. It gives us the ability to listen to those with opposing beliefs without immediately dismissing them. It allows us to love our neighbor, even when we strongly disagree with them.

When we fail to have humility, we are intentionally turning a blind eye to the gaps in our knowledge. We shut down opportunities for growth, and we harden our hearts toward people God has called us to love. Pride closes the door to understanding, but humility opens it wide.

Becoming Like Jesus

Humility may not make us persuasive. In fact, in our world of hot takes and sharp debates, humility often feels out of place. People are more likely to be drawn to the loudest voices rather than the most thoughtful ones. But in the end, humility is not about winning arguments—it is about becoming more like Jesus.

Philippians 2:5–8 reminds us of the humility of Christ:

“You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.

Though he was God,

he did not think of equality with God

as something to cling to.

Instead, he gave up his divine privileges;

he took the humble position of a slave

and was born as a human being.

When he appeared in human form,

he humbled himself in obedience to God

and died a criminal’s death on a cross.” (NLT)

If Jesus—the Son of God—chose the path of humility, then how can we choose any other way? Humility is not weakness; it is strength under control. It is choosing to lower ourselves so that God may be glorified. It is choosing to listen, to love, and to serve rather than dominate, dismiss, or belittle.

A Final Thought

In a world overflowing with opinions, what if Christians became known not for their loudness but for their humility? What if we modeled the wisdom of admitting we don’t know everything and showed grace to those who see things differently?

Humility won’t always get us applause. It won’t make us trend on social media. But it will make us more like Jesus. And in the end, that is what truly matters.

The Humility We Desperately Need

In a world drowning in opinions, arguments, and endless streams of information, there’s one virtue we’re sorely lacking: humility. 

On September 23, 2019 I wrote this on Facebook: 

One of the things this world needs right now is a big dose of humility. Be humble enough to listen to the other side. Be humble enough to allow the Bible to renew your mind. Be humble enough to admit that you are ignorant about most things.

That thought has only grown more relevant with time. The more we stare at screens and live inside our own echo chambers, the more arrogant and dismissive we become. We are convinced our opinions are right and that the voices we follow are the good guys.

With my Facebook post I also shared this passage from Scott Adams’ book Win Bigly: 

“The common worldview, shared by most humans, is that there is one objective reality, and we humans can understand that reality through a rigorous application of facts and reason. This view of the world imagines that some people have already achieved a fact-based type of enlightenment that is compatible with science and logic, and they are trying to help the rest of us see the world the ‘right’ way. As far as I can tell, most people share that interpretation of the world. The only wrinkle with that worldview is that we all think we are the enlightened ones. And we assume the people who disagree with us just need better facts, and perhaps better brains, in order to agree with us.” — Scott Adams, Win Bigly, p. 2

I think Adams nails it! 

We all like to think we’ve cracked the code on truth. We’re the enlightened ones, armed with the right facts, the right logic, and the right perspective. I am convinced that many times as Christians we talk about “the truth” in this way. That is why we label it with things like absolute truth ore biblical truth. We want to let the world know that truth is on our side. Those who disagree? Well, they must be misinformed, misled, sinful, or just not thinking hard enough. 

But here’s the kicker: everyone feels this way. The conservative, the progressive, the skeptic, the believer—we’re all convinced we’re the ones seeing reality clearly. And that’s where the trouble starts.

The Humility to Listen

Humility begins with listening—really listening. Not the kind where you’re just waiting for your turn to speak or mentally crafting your rebuttal while the other person talks. This is the kind of listening that seeks to understand, even when you disagree. Humility seeks to find the morals and values that are the foundation of what the other person is saying. This is hard. It’s uncomfortable. It forces you to sit with ideas that might challenge your carefully constructed worldview. 

Even though it is hard, it is one of the ways that we are able to express love for the other person. We are showing them the respect they deserve as a person created in God’s image. It is possible to love someone without agreeing with them.

In James 1:19, we’re told, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” 

James shares timeless wisdom here that slices through our modern noise. Listening doesn’t mean you have to agree. It doesn’t mean you abandon your convictions. It means you value the other person enough to hear them out, to consider that they might—just might—have a perspective worth understanding. 

Humility recognizes that no single person has a monopoly on truth, and sometimes, the “other side” might reveal a blind spot you didn’t know you had.

The Humility to Be Renewed

If we’re honest, most of us cling to our beliefs like life rafts. They give us identity, security, and a sense of belonging. 

Let me ask you a very important question: What happens when those beliefs are challenged—not by an opponent in a debate, but by the very Word of God? 

Romans 12:2 urges us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” That’s a call to humility—a willingness to let God’s truth reshape our thoughts, even when it’s uncomfortable. Are you willing to let Scripture renew your mind?

This kind of humility requires us to hold our beliefs loosely enough to let Scripture challenge them. It means admitting that our understanding of the world—whether it’s politics, morality, or even faith—might not be as airtight as we think. 

It’s not about throwing out conviction; it’s about trusting that God’s truth is bigger than our current understanding. When we approach the Bible with humility, we open ourselves to growth, to correction, and to a deeper relationship with the One who is the Truth.

The Humility to Admit Ignorance

Perhaps the hardest part of humility is admitting we don’t know as much as we think we do. In a world of instant access to information, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking we’ve got it all figured out. But the reality is, our knowledge is limited. We’re finite beings trying to make sense of an infinitely complex world. As Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 13:12:

For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

Admitting ignorance isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom. It’s the starting point for learning, for growth, for meaningful dialogue. When we acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers, we create space for curiosity, for questions, and for genuine connection with others. It’s a reminder that we’re all on a journey, and none of us has arrived at the destination yet.

Breaking the Cycle of Division

Scott Adams’ observation about our “enlightened” worldviews points to a deeper issue: our pride. 

When we assume we’re the ones with the right facts and everyone else is just wrong, we fuel division. We stop seeing people as individuals with their own stories, struggles, and reasons for believing what they do. Instead, we reduce them to caricatures—“the uninformed,” “the misguided,” or worse.

Humility flips that script. It invites us to see others as fellow travelers, not enemies. It challenges us to listen with empathy, to let God’s Word refine our thinking, and to embrace the limits of our own understanding. In a world that’s quick to shout and slow to hear, humility is a radical act—a countercultural choice that can bridge divides and foster understanding.

A Call to Action

So, where do we go from here? Let’s start small. This week, try one of these:

1. Listen to someone you disagree with. Not to argue, but to understand. Ask questions. Resist the urge to correct or convince. Just listen.
2. Let Scripture challenge you. Pick a passage that feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar, and sit with it. Ask God to renew your mind, even if it means rethinking something you’ve held dear.
3. Admit you don’t know. The next time you’re tempted to act like an expert, pause. Acknowledge the limits of your knowledge, and invite someone else to share their perspective.

The world doesn’t need more people shouting their version of the truth. It needs more people humble enough to listen, to learn, and to grow. Let’s be those people.

What’s one way you’ve practiced humility lately? Or, what’s a situation where you’ve struggled to stay humble? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

A Godly Pattern for Living

Have you ever noticed how life seems to push us toward the very things that hurt us most? 

Pride convinces us that we deserve recognition. Anxiety whispers that everything depends on us. Temptation promises an easier path if we’ll just give in. In the middle of all that, the Apostle Peter gives us a different vision for life—a godly pattern that brings freedom, peace, and strength.

In his first letter, Peter lays out three simple but challenging steps: relinquish your rights, rely on God, and resist the devil. These aren’t just religious duties. They’re a way of life that shapes our character and keeps us aligned with God’s heart.

Relinquish Your Rights

Peter begins with a call to humility:

1 Peter 5:5-6 (NLT)

In the same way, you who are younger must accept the authority of the elders. And all of you, dress yourselves in humility as you relate to one another, for

“God opposes the proud

but gives grace to the humble.”

So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor.

Relinquishing your rights doesn’t mean you stop having opinions or that your needs don’t matter. It means stepping away from the me-first mentality that dominates our world. Instead of demanding control, insisting on being heard, or clinging to recognition, humility calls you to trust God and serve others.

Jesus is our example here. Though He was God, Philippians 2 tells us He did not cling to His divine rights but humbled Himself—even to the point of death on a cross. True humility isn’t weakness; it’s the strength to surrender to God’s timing and trust His plan.

Rely on God

After humility, Peter addresses something we all carry: worry.

1 Peter 5:7 (NLT)

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

The picture here is vivid—it’s like tossing a heavy load onto someone else’s shoulders. God doesn’t ask us to pretend our problems aren’t real. He invites us to hand them to Him because He cares deeply for us.

Think about the burdens you carry—financial stress, family struggles, uncertainty about the future. It’s like walking around with a backpack full of rocks. God says, “Give it to Me. I can carry that.”

When we rely on God, we’re not ignoring reality. We’re admitting that we’re not strong enough on our own and choosing to trust the One who is.

Resist the Devil

Finally, Peter gives a sober warning:

1 Peter 5:8-9 (NLT)

Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are.

The devil is real, and his goal is to derail our faith. He tempts us to doubt God’s goodness, to give in to fear, or to compromise when obedience feels too costly. Peter doesn’t tell us to fight in our own strength—he tells us to resist by standing firm in faith.

Jesus shows us how. When Satan tempted Him in the wilderness, He resisted with the truth of Scripture: “It is written…” God’s Word is our anchor when the enemy roars.

And here’s some encouragement: we don’t fight alone. Christians all over the world face the same battle. The family of God surrounds us, reminding us that resistance is possible and that victory belongs to Christ.

A Pattern Worth Following

Peter’s pattern for living is as countercultural now as it was in the first century:

• Relinquish your rights—choose humility over pride.
• Rely on God—cast your worries onto the One who cares for you.
• Resist the devil—stand firm in faith, anchored in God’s truth.

This is the way of Jesus—the One who humbled Himself, trusted the Father, and triumphed over the enemy. When we follow His lead, we discover the freedom of humility, the peace of trusting God, and the strength to stand firm in a world that wants to pull us away from Him.


Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

Paul’s Radical Call to Love: Mutual Submission

Have you ever read a Bible passage and thought, That sounds a little outdated—but in the process you missed out on how revolutionary the thought was?

I think that is the case with Ephesians 5:21–33. On the surface, Paul’s words about wives submitting to husbands and husbands loving their wives can sound like they belong in another century. But if we could hear them the way the first Christians in Ephesus did, we would be stunned the new cultural standard the Apostle was setting for this group of Jesus Followers.

Paul wasn’t reinforcing the power structures of his day—he was turning them upside down.

Mutual Submission: A Shock to the System

Paul begins this section with a thought that would have stopped his readers in their tracks:

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (Ephesians 5:21)

In the Roman world, submission was what their culture was built on. We see this hierarchy laid out in the household code that he lays out following this sentence—slaves obeying masters, wives deferring to husbands, children doing exactly what they were told. We need to understand that the idea that everyone in the church should submit to one another was unthinkable.

If we focus on what Paul says about the roles found in marriage, he doesn’t undo them, but he reframes them. Wives are called to trust and respect their husbands “as to the Lord” (v. 22), this was not surprising. Within the larger Roman world, wives were expected to submit to their husbands. Wives submitting to their husbands was not counter cultural.

What was counter cultural is that husbands are called to love their wives “as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (v. 25). Paul spends time teaching husbands why this is important, because it was not assumed that husbands would love their wives. The husband’s responsibility was control. The Christian vision of marriage is that of mutual submission, and the way the husband submits to his wife is by loving her well.

It’s like a dance. The wife follows her husband’s lead, but his lead isn’t about control—it’s about sacrifice, like Jesus washing His disciples’ feet or dying on the cross.

Flipping the Household Code

In Paul’s day, philosophers like Aristotle had already written “household codes” explaining how the family should work. These codes always started with the paterfamilias—the male head of the household—who ruled over everyone. Wives, children, and servants were told to obey. The man’s job? Be in charge.

Paul starts in a way that sounds familiar—wives submit, husbands lead—but then he flips the script. Instead of telling husbands to simply “manage” their wives, he commands them to love their wives like Christ loved the church. That means sacrificial, self-emptying love. It means putting her needs ahead of his own. It means putting her needs and desires ahead of your own. It means doing what is best for the family. It means being willing to die for her.

In a culture where the man answered to no one in his household, Paul says: You submit, too. That’s not Aristotle. That’s Jesus. That is a radical and counter cultural teaching that we miss.

Why It Matters Now

We’re far removed from the Roman world, but these words still push against our instincts. Some people get stuck on “wives submit” and miss the weight of “husbands love.” Others bristle at the idea of submission entirely. But when we read Ephesians 5 through the lens of verse 21—mutual submission—it becomes clear: Paul’s vision is about love that gives, not power that takes.

Whether you’re married or not, the principle stands: In Christ, relationships aren’t about control, but about reflecting His humility. We serve each other because He served us first. We submit to one another because He laid down His life for us.

A Challenge

When you think about your relationships—marriage, friendships, church, workplace—what would change if you saw every interaction through the lens of mutual submission?

What if your first question wasn’t “How can I get my way?” but “How can I love like Christ here?”

This week, try it. In the moment when you want to win the argument, control the plan, or make the call—pause. Remember Paul’s words. Choose the path of humility.

Because in the Kingdom of God, greatness isn’t measured by how many people serve you—it’s measured by how willing you are to serve them.

Embracing Diversity with Humility

Have you ever caught yourself quietly labeling someone—strange, naïve, maybe even immoral—not because they’ve done something truly wrong, but simply because they didn’t do things your way?

It’s funny how quickly it happens. Someone approaches a situation differently than we would, and without thinking, our minds go into silent critique mode: What were they thinking? From there, it’s not a big leap to conclude they’re foolish, misguided, or wrong. The only “crime” they committed was failing to meet the unspoken standard in our heads.

The Bible has a word for this: pride. It’s that inner voice whispering, My way is best. My perspective is right. My values are superior. Once we buy into that, it becomes dangerously easy to judge, dismiss, and divide.

The irony? Most of us would agree that diversity—of thought, culture, personality, and background—is a gift from God. A world where everyone thought and acted identically would be dull, robotic, and stagnant. Yet the very differences we claim to celebrate often become the fuel for our harshest judgments.

Jesus Takes It Seriously

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus said something that should stop us in our tracks:

“You have heard that it was said to our ancestors, Do not murder, and whoever murders will be subject to judgment. But I tell you, everyone who is angry with his brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Whoever insults his brother or sister will be subject to the court. Whoever says, ‘You fool! ’ will be subject to hellfire.”
(Matthew 5:21–22, CSB)

Jesus isn’t exaggerating here. He’s making the point that contempt, insults, and name-calling come from the same heart that fuels murder. They degrade the image of God in others, and they poison our own hearts in the process.

A Better Way

The Apostle Paul gives us a different standard:

Therefore I, the prisoner in the Lord, urge you to walk worthy of the calling you have received, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.
(Ephesians 4:1–3, CSB)

Humility doesn’t mean abandoning truth or convictions. It means acknowledging that we don’t have all the answers, and that other people—different as they may be—are worth listening to, learning from, and loving.

It means pausing before we slap on a label.
It means trading the instinct to condemn for the discipline of curiosity.
It means seeing diversity not as a flaw to fix, but as part of God’s beautiful design.

Not every choice people make is wise or godly—but our first step shouldn’t be knee-jerk condemnation. God calls us to discernment rooted in love, not in pride.

Today’s Challenge

So this week, notice your labels.

Slow down before speaking.

Choose to listen before you judge.

And when you see someone who is different—in thought, in practice, in culture—thank God for the gift of diversity, and ask Him to help you respond with humility.

Because when we embrace diversity with the heart of Jesus, we don’t just tolerate differences—we reflect the Kingdom.

Lessons from the King: Judging Others

 Imagine being accused of a crime you didn’t commit—not because of hard evidence, but because a computer said you were guilty. That’s what happened to Jason Vernau, a medical entrepreneur who spent three days in jail after being falsely accused of check fraud. AI-driven facial recognition software flagged him as a match for a bank customer involved in fraud. The twist? Jason was at the bank that day—but only to deposit a legitimate check. The technology made a hasty connection, and the investigators ran with it, failing to dig deeper or consider the full story.

“This is your investigative work?” Vernau asked in disbelief. “You have a picture of me at a bank and that’s your proof? Where’s my fingerprints on the check? Where’s my signature?” The charges were eventually dropped, but the damage was done—all because of flawed judgment based on incomplete information.

Too often, we’re not so different. We jump to conclusions and pass judgment on others without knowing the whole picture. But as citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven, Jesus calls us to something better—a righteousness that reflects humility, love, and mercy rather than condemnation.

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A Kingdom Heart

In our series Lessons from the King, we’re diving into the Sermon on the Mount, where Jesus teaches us what it means to live as citizens of His Kingdom. Early in this sermon, He sets the bar high:

“Unless your righteousness is better than the righteousness of the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven!” (Matthew 5:20, NLT).

The Pharisees’ righteousness was all about rules, appearances, and exclusion. Jesus, however, calls us to a righteousness that flows from the heart—a transformed desire and will, rooted in allegiance to Him as our King. That’s where true change begins.

Today’s lesson from Matthew 7:1-7 challenges us to reject the judgmental spirit of the Pharisees and embrace Kingdom values instead. To understand this, let’s look at how Jesus critiqued the Pharisees in Matthew 23:2-4, 13. He condemned their hypocrisy—they burdened people with rules, judged them harshly, and declared them unfit for God’s Kingdom, all while refusing to lift a finger to help.

Kingdom citizens, Jesus says, must be different. Our righteousness is built on humility, mercy, and love.

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Do Not Judge—Or Do We?

“Judge not, lest you be judged” (Matthew 7:1-2) is one of the most quoted verses in the Bible—and often misunderstood. At first glance, it might seem like Jesus is telling us to avoid all moral discernment. But context is key. Just a few verses later, in Matthew 7:6 and 15, He instructs us to discern wisely—about who we share the Gospel with and how we identify false prophets.

So what does He mean?

Jesus isn’t forbidding us from recognizing right and wrong. He’s warning against the kind of judgment the Pharisees practiced—condemning others and shutting them out of God’s Kingdom. That’s not our job.

When we rush to condemn, we risk two consequences:

1. The standard we use on others will be turned back on us—by people and ultimately by God. If we refuse to forgive, we won’t be forgiven.
2. We’re stepping into a role reserved for God alone, who sees the full story of every heart.

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Start with Yourself

Jesus drives this home with a vivid, almost comical image:

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:3-5).

It’s ridiculous to imagine someone with a log sticking out of their eye trying to help someone else with a tiny speck. Yet that’s what we do when we judge others without examining ourselves first.

This isn’t about ignoring sin in others. It’s about humility—recognizing that we only see a fraction of their story while knowing our own flaws all too well. The Pharisees acted righteous without being righteous, condemning others while ignoring their own hypocrisy.

Jesus calls us to confess our sins, turn to God, and approach others with mercy. Only then can we offer help rather than judgment, pointing people to Jesus with love.

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Wise Discernment, Not Blind Acceptance

Lest we think Jesus wants us to throw caution to the wind, He adds:

“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs” (Matthew 7:6).

Here, He calls for discernment. Dogs and pigs were unclean animals in Jewish culture, often symbols for those hostile to God’s ways. Jesus isn’t saying we should write people off lightly—He’s teaching us to focus our efforts wisely.

If someone has shown contempt for the Gospel, rejecting Jesus outright, we shouldn’t waste energy forcing it on them. They might “turn and tear you apart,” derailing our mission to share God’s love with those who are open.

This is why Jesus taught in parables: they revealed who was truly seeking God and who wasn’t. Our job is to share what’s holy with the receptive and pray for those who resist, trusting God to work in their hearts.

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Living as Kingdom Citizens

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged” might be famous in our culture, often wielded as a shield for bad behavior. But Jesus isn’t endorsing blind acceptance. He’s calling us to rise above the Pharisees’ condemnation and embody Kingdom values.

We’re to be humble, knowing we’re sinners saved by grace.
We’re to be merciful, offering help rather than exclusion.
And we’re to be discerning, focusing on those open to God’s truth while praying for His enemies.

The big idea is this: Citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven don’t condemn but show humility, love, and mercy to others.

It’s tempting to judge—especially when we hold God’s Word and see where others fall short. But Kingdom citizens realize God has been merciful to us, and we’re called to extend that grace to others.

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A Challenge and a Prayer

When the urge to judge strikes, hit pause and pray. As Scot McKnight puts it, “We are to conclude ‘that is wrong’ and ‘that is good,’ but we must not pronounce ‘you are condemned by God.’”

We’re citizens of the Kingdom, not the King. Only He knows the heart.

So today, thank God for Jesus, who makes us part of His Kingdom. Ask Him for wisdom to examine your own life first. And pray for someone who needs His forgiveness—maybe even someone you’ve been tempted to judge.

Let’s live out the righteousness of the Kingdom, reflecting our King’s heart in all we do.