Wednesday, January 15, 2025

Questions God Asks: Where Are You?


On March 28, 2007, Misty Ann Weaver, a vocational nurse, started a fire in a mid-rise office building in an attempt to delay an audit for her employer, Dr. Robert Capriotti, a cosmetic surgeon. They had fallen behind in getting all the needed documents together, and Misty hoped the fire would buy them time. Instead of buying them time, her actions led to tragic consequences. The fire spiraled out of control, and three people died of smoke inhalation. Misty thought she had plan to cover up the fact that she had fallen behind in completing her assignment, but her plan led to the deaths of three people. On October 2008, she pleaded guilty to three counts of felony murder and one count of first-degree arson. She was sentenced to 25 years in prison.

Misty’s story is extreme, but it illustrates a universal truth: our tendency to cover up our mistakes rather than confront them. We all have moments when we try to hide our shortcomings, hoping no one notices. But these actions often have consequences—maybe not as tragic as Misty's, but damaging nonetheless. The question we must ask ourselves is: How have you tried to cover things up in your life?

This isn’t just a rhetorical question; it’s an invitation to reflect. Questions like this help us connect our lives to a deeper truth. We often think of questions as tools to gain information, but they serve many other purposes too: to show interest, to stimulate creativity, to engage others, and to make people think deeply. In Scripture, God uses questions in a similar way—not because He needs information, but because He wants us to pause, reflect, and become mindful of our relationship with Him.

God’s Questions: An Invitation to Reflection

Throughout the Bible, God asks questions—not because He lacks knowledge, but because He wants His people to become aware of their own hearts and their relationship with Him. This is especially clear in Genesis 3:1-13, where God asks Adam and Eve, “Where are you?” after they eat from the forbidden tree. It’s crucial to remember that these texts were written long ago for an ancient culture, specifically the Israelites, who were surrounded by idolatry. These stories reveal the character of God, not to answer all our modern questions but to show the radical nature of His relationship with His people.

In Genesis 3, we witness a fascinating contrast: the humans are described as “naked” (innocent) in Genesis 2:25, while the serpent is described as “shrewd” or cunning. The serpent (whether Satan himself or influenced by him) challenges God’s command, and the woman, in response, adds to it by saying they must not even touch the fruit. This act of adding to God’s word opens the door for further temptation.

The woman’s desire for the fruit and the man’s silence speak to a truth we all face today—our desires and intentions matter. The man’s failure to intervene could suggest he was tempted as well, perhaps using the woman as a test case. Regardless, their eyes were opened, and they realized they were naked. In that moment, they lost their innocence, and the knowledge they gained was too much for them to handle. They tried to cover their shame with leaves, an act that mirrors how we often attempt to hide our own failures.

“Where Are You?”: God’s Call to Vulnerability

When God shows up, Adam and Eve hide, ashamed of what they’ve done. God’s question, “Where are you?” isn’t about finding their physical location; it’s a call to reflect on their spiritual state. God knew where they were physically, but He wanted them to realize their own separation from Him and the opportunity to restore that broken relationship. God then asks, “Who told you that you were naked?” Again, God isn’t seeking information; He wants Adam and Eve to come to terms with their choices and their consequences.

This moment in Genesis stands out compared to other ancient myths of its time because it highlights the possibility of restoration and relationship with God. It wasn’t about condemnation alone; it was about God’s willingness to bring healing. God’s question, “Where are you?” echoes through the ages. He asks us today, “Where are you in your relationship with Me?” Are you hiding, afraid of what God might say or do? Are you covering up your mistakes, pretending everything is okay? Are you blaming others, or are you willing to confess and seek forgiveness?

The Call to Confession

1 John 1:5-10 reminds us that instead of hiding, we need to confess. Instead of blaming, we need to own our sins. Instead of covering up, we need to seek God’s forgiveness. Confession shows that we are mindful and intentional about our relationship with God. It’s not about condemnation but about restoration. God’s invitation is to step out of hiding and move into a place of healing.

Bottom Line: God’s Desire for Relationship

The bottom line is this: God desires a relationship with each of us, regardless of our past or our sins. No mistake is too great to separate us from His love. But we need to be willing to come out of hiding, to confess, and to start the process of reconciliation. It’s the starting point for a renewed relationship with Him.

A Challenge

This week, take time to reflect and confess the obstacles in your relationship with God. These obstacles could be sin, but they might also be doubt, fear, or worry. Don’t take your relationship with God for granted; be intentional about strengthening it. Seek God with honesty, and in doing so, you’ll find that God is already there, ready to meet you.

God’s question isn’t one of condemnation but one of invitation: “Where are you?” How will you respond?

Tuesday, January 14, 2025

Parenting in a Digital World: Shaping Healthy Digital Habits

 


In our second  post of Parenting in a Digital World, we will focus on shaping healthy digital habits for our families. Building on the foundational principles of protection, guidance, and empowerment discussed in the first post, this post seeks to provide actionable strategies to create a balanced digital culture at home.

Recap of Post 1

Parenting in the digital age revolves around understanding our “why.” Why do we strive for intentionality with technology? The answer is simple yet profound: because our children and their development matter. Technology presents challenges like digital addiction, peer pressure, and parental inconsistency, but remembering our purpose helps us stay focused. As parents, we aim to protect, guide, and empower our kids to navigate the digital world productively and responsibly.


Building Your Family’s Digital Culture

Creating a family digital culture starts with identifying your shared values around technology use. This requires thoughtful, informed conversations that involve both parents and, where appropriate, older children.

Key Considerations:

  • Aligning Technology with Priorities: How does technology fit into family goals like fostering relationships, education, physical activity, and spirituality?
  • Consistency in Modeling Values: For example, if we value education, we must model lifelong learning, just as we would physical activity or faith formation.
  • Practical Rules to Support Values: Examples include screen-free zones (e.g., dinner table, bedrooms), limits on screen time during family activities, and spending caps on gadgets and apps.

It’s essential for parents to engage in deeper discussions and reach a consensus before setting rules. To support this, consider arranging childcare or quiet times to allow for focused conversations.


Managing Screen Time

Understanding Screen Time:

From school to entertainment, screen time includes all interactions with digital devices. Studies show that children today are digital natives, with U.S. averages indicating:

  • 8-12 years old: 4-6 hours per day
  • Teenagers: Up to 9 hours per day
  • Adults: Around 7 hours per day

Not all screen time is equal—educational uses can be beneficial, while excessive entertainment use can lead to missed opportunities in sleep, physical activity, and reading.

What’s Being Missed?

While we can focus on the negative consequences of being on screens, we also have to think about what screen time is replacing.
  1. Sleep: Screen time disrupts both quality and quantity of rest, impacting emotional and mental health.
  2. In Person Relationships: More and more teenagers are opting not to physically hang out with friends, but to connect through texting and social media.
  3. Physical Activity: A staggering 85% of girls and 78% of boys fail to meet daily exercise recommendations.
  4. Reading: Leisure reading is declining, which hinders comprehension, critical thinking, and spiritual engagement.

Setting Limits:

David Tucker, in The Digital Parenting Guidebook, emphasizes awareness as the foundation for setting appropriate boundaries. Here are age-based recommendations from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP):

  • Under 2 years: Zero screen time, except video chatting.
  • 2-5 years: No more than one hour/day with co-viewing.
  • 5-17 years: Generally no more than two hours/day outside of homework.

Helping children develop a healthy relationship with technology starts with intentionality. Here are three key strategies for parents:

  1. Create the Family’s Digital Culture:
    Establish a clear framework for how your family interacts with technology. This includes setting up device-free zones (e.g., the dinner table, bedrooms), establishing age-appropriate time limits, and identifying acceptable apps. These boundaries provide structure while aligning with your family’s values.

  2. Leverage Software for Time Limits:
    Utilize built-in parental controls and third-party software to set and enforce screen time limits. While these tools are helpful, they aren’t foolproof and can often be bypassed. Parents must remain vigilant and actively monitor their child’s screen use to ensure limits are respected.

  3. Teach the Value of Time Management:
    Children often feel like they have unlimited time, making it essential for parents to guide them in understanding its value. Help your children learn to balance their time by prioritizing work, play, exercise, and relationships. Emphasizing time management also prepares them for moments when they must resist the “screen time itch” and focus on other priorities.

By combining structure, tools, and lessons on time management, parents can equip their children to navigate the digital world thoughtfully and independently.



Final Takeaways

Parenting in a digital world requires intentionality, informed discussions, and consistent modeling. As we continue to navigate this journey, let’s remain focused on our goals: creating a digital environment that supports healthy development and reflects our family’s core values.

Let’s continue this conversation—what steps have you taken to foster healthy digital habits in your home? Share your thoughts below!

Monday, January 13, 2025

Lessons from the King: The Call of the Kingdom

 


Imagine for a moment what it takes to become a citizen of the United States. The process is rigorous—time, effort, and commitment are required. First, you must meet certain eligibility requirements. Then comes the application process, a declaration of intent, and a thorough examination. This is followed by an interview and a test, where your knowledge of the nation’s history, laws, and values is assessed. Finally, there’s the oath of allegiance—a solemn moment when you pledge loyalty to a new identity, a new home, and a new purpose. Becoming a citizen means leaving behind old allegiances and embracing a new life.

This imagery of citizenship sets the stage for the message of the Kingdom of Heaven. Over the next twelve weeks, as part of the sermon series Lessons from the King, we will explore the Sermon on the Mount—Jesus’s teaching on what it means to be citizens of God’s Kingdom. A core truth runs through it all: We cannot be citizens of God’s Kingdom without faithfulness to the King.

Before diving into the Sermon on the Mount, Matthew’s Gospel introduces us to the beginning of Jesus’s ministry. This foundation reveals the nature of His call: the call to be citizens of God’s Kingdom. It is personal, transforming, and radical.


The Context of the Call (Matthew 4:12-17)

Jesus began His ministry with purpose and perfect timing.

1. The Timing of the Call

After His baptism and wilderness testing, Jesus waited to start His ministry. He began only after John the Baptist was arrested. John’s message of repentance had prepared the people, and Jesus built upon it, signaling a transition from preparation to fulfillment.

2. The Location of the Call

Jesus moved from Nazareth to Capernaum, a bustling city in Galilee, a region marked by Gentile influence. This move wasn’t random—it fulfilled Isaiah’s prophecy that light would come to Galilee (Isaiah 9:1-2). Here, the Messiah would shine, bringing hope to those in darkness.

3. The Message of the Call

Jesus’s message mirrored John’s: “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near.” Repentance is a turning point—a call to align with God’s will. The Kingdom of Heaven represents God’s reign, where His purposes are fulfilled. To enter this Kingdom requires leaving behind rebellion and embracing faithfulness to God.


The Nature of the Call (Matthew 4:18-22)

What does repentance look like? Jesus’s call to the first disciples reveals the answer.

1. A Personal and Specific Call

Jesus’s invitation was tailored to individuals. For Peter, Andrew, James, and John, the call meant leaving their nets behind to become fishers of people. For others, like Matthew the tax collector or Simon the Zealot, the call required forsaking old allegiances to serve a new mission. Each call was unique, but the response was the same: immediate and wholehearted.

2. A Transformative Purpose

Jesus’s call transformed the disciples’ purpose. They left their identities as fishermen to take on a new mission—proclaiming the Kingdom. Similarly, following Jesus transforms our priorities and redefines how we live, even if it doesn’t change our occupation.

3. A Radical Commitment

The disciples’ response was marked by sacrifice. Peter and Andrew left their livelihood; James and John left their father. Following Jesus often requires letting go of something significant—whether relationships, possessions, or personal ambitions. The call to the Kingdom demands a total reorientation of life.


The Urgency of the Call

The Kingdom of Heaven is not a distant promise—it is near, breaking into the present. Jesus’s invitation demands an immediate response. The disciples recognized this urgency and followed Him without delay.

But what happens if we hesitate? The cost of delay is profound. Like the Rich Young Ruler, we risk walking away from Jesus with regret, missing the transformative life He offers. Wisdom calls us to act when the invitation is clear—to trust in Jesus and leave behind whatever holds us back.


Responding to the Call

Becoming a citizen of the Kingdom of Heaven is unlike any earthly citizenship process. It begins with Jesus’s call: “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near.” While earthly citizenship requires our effort, Kingdom citizenship is initiated by God’s grace. It invites us to pledge allegiance to Jesus, leaving behind old ways and embracing a life aligned with His will.

To be a Christian is not simply to add Jesus to our lives. It is to adopt a new agenda—to live for God’s Kingdom and surrender our plans to His purposes.


Challenge and Invitation

As we begin this journey through the Sermon on the Mount, I challenge you to read Matthew 5-7. Ask God for wisdom, not just to understand His teachings but to apply them in ways that transform your life and bring His Kingdom to the world.

When Jesus calls, He asks for everything—but He offers so much more in return. Are you ready to follow King Jesus today?

Friday, January 10, 2025

Pursuing Perfection: A Call to Live as God Intends

 


“On the other hand, you must realize from the outset that the goal toward which He is beginning to guide you is absolute perfection; and no power in the whole universe, except you yourself, can prevent Him from taking you to that goal.” – C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

How we live matters deeply to God. If our actions were insignificant, then Jesus would not have needed to die for our sins. Our words and deeds profoundly impact our relationship with God and our witness to others.

Yet, there’s a troubling misconception floating around: that as Christians, how we live doesn’t really matter because we’re bound to sin anyway. Some believe that faith alone is what counts, not behavior. However, this line of thinking misses a crucial truth: genuine faith shapes how we act. If we’re unwilling to confront sin in our lives, it’s a clear sign that our faith isn’t as strong as it should be.

The Biblical idea of perfection is about maturity and completion. To be perfect is reach the goal and be completely mature. This means life is about a progress towards maturity in Christ Jesus.

God doesn’t demand immediate perfection from us. Perfection is the ultimate goal He is leading us toward. What He does require, though, is that we actively work to make the necessary changes in our lives. Through these changes, we grow closer to becoming the people He wants us to be.

Paul reminds us in Ephesians 4:17 (NLT): “With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused.” Similarly, he warns in Ephesians 5:3-5 (NLT):

“Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people. Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God.”

When we choose to follow Christ, there must be a visible transformation in our lives. As Peter writes in 1 Peter 4:4 (NLT): “Of course, your former friends are surprised when you no longer plunge into the flood of wild and destructive things they do. So they slander you.”

This transformation says something profound about our commitment. If we refuse to adjust our vocabulary, the way we party, the jokes we tell, or the entertainment we consume, what does that reveal about our dedication? It’s tempting to justify our behavior by pointing to God’s grace and forgiveness, but grace is not a free pass to continue sinning. Grace is a safety net, not a license to be complacent. It ensures we don’t lose our salvation for every mistake, but it doesn’t excuse laziness in pursuing holiness.

God’s ultimate desire is to make us holy, as He is holy. Holiness is what biblical perfection looks like. The challenge is that God won’t accomplish this without our consent and cooperation. We must actively participate in the process by striving to change our lives and fighting against the sin that seeks to enslave us. This ongoing battle against sin is the path through which God molds us into His image.

Let’s embrace this journey, knowing that perfection is not just an unattainable ideal but a promise—one that He will faithfully bring to completion as we trust and obey Him. May our lives reflect our faith, drawing us closer to Him and serving as a testimony to those around us.

Wednesday, January 8, 2025

Be Wise


Robert Fulghum once wrote in the Kansas City Times, "Most of what I really need to know about how to live, and what to do, and how to be, I learned in kindergarten." He went on to list simple yet profound lessons: share everything, play fair, say you’re sorry, and stick together. These lessons illustrate an important truth: wisdom isn’t about having vast knowledge or advanced degrees. Wisdom is about how we live, how we treat others, and how we respond to life. Even young children can display wisdom in their actions.

God desires that His people live with wisdom. Wisdom is more than a collection of rules; it’s godly knowledge applied to living well in God’s world. The Old Testament Law wasn’t merely a set of do’s and don’ts—it was a source of wisdom meant to guide Israel in representing God well. Similarly, the book of Proverbs offers timeless wisdom through short, memorable sayings. These proverbs were given to help God’s people navigate life in a way that glorifies Him and blesses others. They remain relevant to us today because living with wisdom transforms not only our lives but also the lives of those around us.

Proverbs 4:5-9 highlights three essential attitudes for living with wisdom: desiring wisdom, prioritizing wisdom, and valuing wisdom.


I. Desire Wisdom (Proverbs 4:5-6)

The first step toward living wisely is to desire wisdom. To desire wisdom is to recognize its benefits and long for the blessings it brings to life. We often fail to desire wisdom because we mistakenly believe it’s too hard to obtain—that it’s reserved for intellectuals or scholars. However, God offers wisdom freely through His Word, His people, and prayer.

The father in Proverbs encourages his son to pursue wisdom persistently, reminding us that this is a lifelong process. Wisdom is not something we stumble upon accidentally; it requires intentional effort and discipline. Proverbs 4:5 commands us to “get wisdom” and “get understanding,” emphasizing the need for deliberate action. This pursuit often involves spiritual disciplines such as studying the Bible, meditating on God’s truth, and seeking counsel from wise believers.

In verse 6, wisdom is personified as something to cherish and guard, like a close friend. When we value wisdom in this way, we experience its blessings and protection. The journey to wisdom begins with a heartfelt desire to receive it.


II. Prioritize Wisdom (Proverbs 4:7)

The second attitude we must cultivate is prioritizing wisdom. Desiring wisdom is not enough if we don’t make it a priority in our lives. To prioritize wisdom means to declare it as valuable and worth pursuing above all else.

Proverbs 4:7 tells us, “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.” This underscores the absolute necessity of wisdom in our lives. When we prioritize wisdom, we position ourselves to live the life God created us to live. This doesn’t guarantee a life free of challenges, but it ensures that we can faithfully represent God in all we say and do, trusting Him to provide for our needs.

Unfortunately, we often devalue wisdom, treating it as an afterthought. We settle for salvation and then muddle through life without asking God for the wisdom He has for us. Yet, God’s wisdom empowers us to bear His image more fully and live as His representatives in this world.


III. Value Wisdom (Proverbs 4:8-9)

The final attitude we need is to value wisdom. To value wisdom is to recognize its worth and understand that it’s worth sacrificing for. Olympic athletes train for years to compete for a medal—we should have a similar dedication when it comes to pursuing wisdom.

In Proverbs 4:8-9, the father tells his son that wisdom will exalt and honor those who embrace it. When we live with wisdom, we become a blessing to others—not just through our words but through our actions and how we treat people. This kind of life brings recognition and honor, not in a prideful sense but as a testimony to the transformative power of wisdom. The benefits of living with wisdom extend from this life into eternity.

Today, we live in an age where information is readily available. A quick Google search or YouTube video can answer almost any question. But true wisdom doesn’t come from the internet—it comes from God, the one who created us and knows how life is meant to be lived.


Conclusion

God calls His people to live with wisdom. This wisdom is seen in how we treat others and respond to life’s challenges. It is godly knowledge applied to living well in God’s world. To live with wisdom, we must desire it, prioritize it, and value it.

Living with wisdom glorifies God and blesses others. It helps us navigate life with understanding and grace, often making our lives easier and more fulfilling. More importantly, it allows us to be a blessing to our friends and family by treating them well and sharing truth with them. In doing so, we reflect God’s glory in our words and actions.


Challenge

  1. Read through the book of Proverbs, taking time to memorize a few key verses.

  2. Reevaluate your priorities to ensure wisdom takes first place in your life.

  3. Reflect on the benefits of wisdom and commit to living in a way that allows others to see its fruit in your life.


Final Thought

Wisdom is not just about knowledge—it’s about living well in God’s world. Make the choice to BE WISE today.

Monday, January 6, 2025

Parenting in a Digital World: Foundations of Parenting in a Digital World


Parenting in a digital age is no easy task. As a parent and pastor, I’ve seen firsthand how deeply digital technology impacts our families. This blog post, based on insights from The Digital Parenting Guidebook and a recent session I facilitated, aims to provide foundational principles for parenting in a connected world. Let’s explore the challenges and opportunities of digital parenting and how we can approach this journey with intention, grace, and adaptability.

Welcome to the Digital Age

Digital technology is woven into the fabric of our daily lives—it’s not going away. As parents, we’re tasked with equipping our children to navigate this world responsibly. But before diving in, ask yourself:

  • What are your biggest concerns about parenting in a digital world?
  • What tools and principles do you need to address these challenges?

David Tucker wisely reminds us that “digital parenting is a type of discipleship.” It requires us to both teach and model the behaviors we want our children to adopt. This is hard, counter-cultural work. Your children will test boundaries, and society may push back on your efforts. But with commitment and consistency, you can guide your family through this complex terrain.


Guiding Principles for Digital Parenting

At its core, parenting in a digital world boils down to three key roles: protecting, guiding, and empowering our children.

1. Protection

The internet opens our children to harmful content, interactions, and addictive tendencies. Establishing boundaries—like screen time limits and content filters—is essential to protect them.

2. Guidance

Parenting isn’t just about rules; it’s about relationships. Guide your children by:

  • Modeling healthy digital habits: Demonstrate balanced tech usage. Put down your phone during family time and prioritize face-to-face interactions.
  • Having open conversations: Talk with your kids about their online activities, friends, and feelings.
  • Building trust: Create an environment where they feel safe coming to you with mistakes or concerns.

3. Empowerment

We can’t shield our children from technology forever, nor should we. Empower them by teaching responsible tech usage and providing age-appropriate freedoms. Encourage them to use technology creatively and productively—whether through coding, digital art, or research for their interests.


Know Your “Why”

Every family needs a clear purpose behind their digital parenting. Here are mine:

  1. Foster Creativity and Productivity
    Boredom often breeds creativity. Encourage your children to play, build, draw, and explore outside the screen.

  2. Set Healthy Boundaries
    Unrestricted tech use can lead to addiction, especially for young, developing brains. Guide your children in establishing limits for social media, video games, and other digital activities.

  3. Prepare for Future Tech
    Technology evolves rapidly—AI, robotics, and embedded devices are just around the corner. Lay a solid foundation now so your children can adapt as they grow.


Obstacles to Overcome

Parenting in the digital world comes with unique challenges:

  • Screen Addiction: Devices are designed to be addictive—for us and our kids. Break the cycle by modeling balance.
  • Parental Inconsistency: Ensure you and your co-parent are aligned on boundaries and rules. Consistency is key.
  • Peer Influence: Other families may not share your values, exposing your children to unregulated tech. Use these moments to reinforce your family’s principles.
  • Overwhelm: The pace of digital change can feel daunting. Stay informed but give yourself grace—it’s impossible to know everything.

Simple Steps to Start Today

If digital parenting feels overwhelming, take these immediate actions:

  1. Set Boundaries
    Discuss and establish age-appropriate tech limits with your spouse or co-parent.

  2. Initiate Conversations
    Ask your children about their online activities, friends, and feelings. For older kids, involve them in boundary-setting to foster a sense of ownership.

  3. Educate Yourself
    Learn about the platforms and apps your children use. Staying informed will help you make better decisions.

  4. Model Good Habits
    Your behavior is your children’s biggest influence. Make tech-free family time a priority, and show them how to balance digital and real-world interactions.


A Final Word

As parents, we are uniquely positioned to guide our children through the complexities of the digital world. And remember: if God has called you to this task, He will provide the wisdom and resources you need. Lean on Him, and don’t be afraid to ask for help—from mentors, fellow parents, or trusted resources.

What’s your biggest challenge or success story when it comes to digital parenting? Share your thoughts below—I’d love to hear from you.


Thursday, January 2, 2025

Grow in Wisdom


 Life has a funny way of showing us how little control we actually have. Even the best-laid plans are no match for life’s unpredictability. Mark Batterson captures this truth perfectly in his book In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day with the story of a malfunctioning car horn.

One morning, while stopped at a red light, Batterson tapped his horn to signal the car ahead. But what began as a polite gesture quickly turned into chaos when the horn jammed and wouldn’t stop honking. After pulling into a gas station, mortified but relieved, the family thought the problem was solved—only for the horn to start blaring again on the highway at 70 mph.

Batterson describes the confusion of other drivers and the sheer panic in the car as he pounded on the horn to silence it. What should have been a simple, peaceful drive turned into 15 minutes of chaos, frustration, and embarrassment. Yet, looking back, it became the highlight of their trip—unplanned, unforgettable, and filled with unexpected joy.

This story reminds us that life often doesn’t go according to plan. Despite our best efforts to create order and control, the unpredictable always finds a way to surprise us. In those moments, we’re forced to ask: How do I respond when life doesn’t go as expected?

The answer lies in wisdom. Wisdom helps us navigate life’s uncertainties skillfully and faithfully, relying on God rather than ourselves. But what is wisdom? And how do we grow in it?


Defining Wisdom and Proverbs

Wisdom is more than knowledge; it is godly insight that enables us to live well in God’s world. It involves applying truth to life in a way that honors God and benefits others. Wisdom recognizes the limitations of our understanding and trusts God’s infinite perspective instead.

The book of Proverbs serves as a guide to gaining wisdom. But what is a proverb? A proverb is a short, memorable saying that conveys general truth, practical advice, or a moral lesson. Proverbs distill life’s complexities into nuggets of truth, making them easy to remember and apply.

For example:

  • “Actions speak louder than words” reminds us that deeds carry more weight than promises.
  • “A stitch in time saves nine” encourages addressing problems early to avoid bigger issues later.

The proverbs in Scripture are unique because they are inspired by God and rooted in His character. They provide wisdom for living in a way that aligns with His will and brings glory to His name.


Wisdom: God’s Design for Living

God desires that His people live with wisdom. From the beginning, God’s law and His Word were designed to guide His people—not merely as rules to follow but as wisdom to meditate on. The book of Proverbs encapsulates this divine guidance, offering timeless truths for every season of life.

Proverbs 9:11-12 highlights the benefits of wisdom: a longer, fuller life marked by healthier relationships and sound decisions. Wisdom protects us from unnecessary risks and destructive choices, enriching our lives in ways we can’t always measure.

If wisdom is so valuable, how do we grow in it? Proverbs 3:5-7 gives us three steps: lean on God, learn His will, and leave sin behind.


Step 1: Lean on God (Proverbs 3:5)

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not rely on your own understanding.”

Trusting God begins with humility—acknowledging that our perspective is limited while God’s is infinite. Just as we wouldn’t lean on a weak crutch, we must not rely on our flawed understanding. Instead, we lean on God, trusting Him for wisdom, truth, and guidance.

Peter reinforces this in 1 Peter 5:6-7: “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God...casting all your cares on Him, because He cares for you.” Trust requires surrender, believing that God cares for us and will provide what we need.


Step 2: Learn God’s Will (Proverbs 3:6)

“In all your ways know Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Part of humility is realizing that our way is not always the best way. Paul emphasizes this in Romans 12:2: “Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.”

Renewing our minds means seeing the world from God’s perspective—understanding His definition of good and evil and committing to live accordingly. This requires immersing ourselves in Scripture and allowing God’s truth to shape our thoughts, decisions, and actions.


Step 3: Leave Sin Behind (Proverbs 3:7)

“Don’t be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and turn away from evil.”

Wisdom demands that we leave sin behind. Sin blinds us to God’s will and damages our relationship with Him. Paul’s words in Colossians 3:5 are clear: “Put to death what belongs to your earthly nature.”

Sin often stems from pride—trusting our wisdom instead of God’s. But to live wisely, we must fear the Lord, submit to His authority, and reject what He calls evil. This requires a daily commitment to pursue holiness and align our lives with His will.


The Call to Trust God

To live with wisdom, we must trust God more than ourselves. This means leaning on Him, learning His will, and leaving sin behind. Wisdom doesn’t come by accident; it requires intentionality and effort.

Thankfully, God promises to provide wisdom to those who seek it. James 1:5 encourages us: “Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God—who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly—and it will be given to him.”


Final Thought

The very first sin in the Garden of Eden was humanity’s choice to rely on their own wisdom instead of trusting God. That choice led to brokenness. Yet through Christ, we are invited to return to God’s wisdom, trusting Him fully and following His ways.

Let’s commit to cultivating hearts ready to grow in wisdom. Together, we can embrace the life God intended—leaning on Him, learning His will, and leaving sin behind.

Tuesday, December 31, 2024

Thinking Clearly About Truth



In today’s digital age, the pursuit of truth often feels like navigating a maze of confusion. Fake news, conflicting opinions, and unchecked narratives bombard us daily. A quick scroll through social media can leave us wondering: what is real, and how do we know?

This struggle to discern truth isn’t new. In John 18:37-38, during Jesus’ trial, Pilate asks Jesus the timeless question: “What is truth?” This question reflects the skepticism and uncertainty of his time—a skepticism that echoes loudly in our culture today.

But amid the noise of our media age, there’s good news: truth is not abstract or unattainable. Truth is grounded in a person—Jesus Christ. His resurrection is the cornerstone of truth, offering clarity and hope in a world of confusion.

The Reality of Confusion and Doubt 

  • Pilate’s Skepticism 
Pilate’s question reveals a heart unsure of what to believe, mirroring the challenges we face. The relativism of his day parallels our culture’s tendency to view truth as subjective—“what’s true for you may not be true for me.” This mindset leads to division and mistrust.

  • Biblical Truth 
Against this backdrop, Jesus declares: “For this purpose I was born and for this purpose I have come into the world—to bear witness to the truth” (John 18:37). Christ’s mission was to reveal truth about God, humanity, and the hope found in Him.

Truth, as defined biblically, corresponds to reality, is consistent and unchanging, and aligns with the character and revelation of God. It is not shaped by feelings, opinions, or trends.

The Foundation of Truth: The Resurrection of Jesus

  • The Core of Christian Faith 
The resurrection of Jesus is the ultimate proof of His divinity and the fulfillment of God’s promises. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 15:17, “If Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins.” Without the resurrection, Christianity crumbles.
  • Why the Resurrection Matters 
1. Validation of Jesus’ Teachings: Everything Jesus taught—about God, salvation, and eternal life—is confirmed by His resurrection.

2. Victory Over Sin and Death: The empty tomb proclaims hope and life beyond this world.

3. A Standard for Truth: If the resurrection is true, then Jesus’ words carry ultimate authority, offering a clear lens to discern right from wrong.

Believing in the resurrection transforms our worldview, anchoring us in eternal hope and unshakable truth.

Discerning Truth in an Age of Misinformation

  • The Challenge of Misinformation 
The digital age has made information more accessible—and more confusing. Every day, we’re faced with competing narratives that blur the lines between fact and fiction. This constant bombardment can lead to spiritual doubt and distraction.

  • The Role of Scripture and the Holy Spirit
In John 17:17, Jesus prays, “Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth.” The Bible is a reliable and eternal source of truth, providing a standard against which all else is measured. Additionally, the Holy Spirit guides us into truth (John 16:13), helping us discern what aligns with God’s Word.

Practical Steps for Discerning Truth:

1. Test Everything Against Scripture (Acts 17:11): Measure information against God’s Word to see if it aligns with His teachings.

2. Seek the Holy Spirit’s Guidance (John 16:13): Pray for clarity and discernment.

3. Verify Sources and Cross-Check Facts: Don’t accept claims at face value—research and confirm their credibility.

4. Ask Critical Questions (Proverbs 18:17): Evaluate evidence and motives behind claims.

5. Evaluate the Fruit (Matthew 7:16-20): Consider the outcomes of believing something—does it lead to godliness or division?

By anchoring ourselves in Scripture, relying on the Holy Spirit, and practicing discernment, we can navigate misinformation with confidence. 

The Call to Live Out Truth

  • Personal Integrity 
As followers of Jesus, we are called to embody truth in our actions and words. This includes being honest, consistent, and faithful witnesses to Christ’s transformative power.

  • Sharing the Gospel Truth 
In a world searching for meaning, the gospel is the greatest truth we can offer. As 1 Peter 3:15 reminds us, we must always be prepared to give an answer for the hope we have—a hope rooted in the resurrection.

The resurrection is not just a historical event; it’s a life-changing truth that shapes how we live and believe. Let it guide your decisions, strengthen your faith, and inspire you to share Christ with others.

Final Thought

The search for truth ends at the empty tomb. Jesus came to bear witness to the truth, and His resurrection confirms it. In a world filled with confusion, the resurrection is our firm foundation.

Truth is not just an idea—it’s a person. Jesus Christ is the way, the truth, and the life. Let His resurrection guide you as you navigate the complexities of life, and may you boldly proclaim His truth to a world in desperate need.

Monday, December 30, 2024

51 Truths I have Learned in 51 Years


Today is my 51st birthday. My birthday present to you are these truths that I have learned during my 51 years of life.

  1. If you go for the right reasons, God will get you to the right place.” — I heard Erwin McManus say this back in 2003, and it has been a guiding principle for my life ever since. Our motivations matter.
  2. Every person is a theologian, whether consciously or unconsciously. What you believe about God shapes your worldview and the way you live. Take time to reflect on what you believe and why.
  3. Humans are created in God’s image. This means we are to represent Him in everything we say and do.
  4. The Lord of the Rings is the greatest story ever written.
  5. No matter what team you cheer for there will be moments of exhilaration, frustration, hope, and despair. The key is to not let our emotions be dictated by the final score. Thankfully I have celebrated 3 championships for the Boston Celtics and 3 for the Denver Broncos during my time as a fan.
  6. Smoking meat is a great hobby.
  7. The Bible may not provide the answers to all the questions asked in our culture, but it does provide a framework that helps us create a Christian worldview.
  8. I was 37 years-old when I married Jenny. It is totally worth waiting for the right person, even when there are moments you wonder if it will ever happen.
  9. We are citizens of heaven first. Our mission isn’t to win elections but to make disciples and be a blessing to our community. This is how exiles of the Kingdom live in the world.
  10. Dogs offer great companionship.
  11. Hiking in the mountains is the best type of vacation. 
  12. What we believe about God influences our decisions, values, and purpose in life. Don’t just follow the crowd—reflect deeply on your faith and how it shapes your path.
  13. Growing up on a farm is a great life for a young boy.
  14. The resurrection of Jesus is the central truth of Christianity. If it didn’t happen following Jesus wouldn’t matter. Because it did, there is nothing more important in life
  15. Living a life of faith will naturally lead to living a counter-cultural life.
  16. Being a life long learner is crucial to living a full life.
  17. The Bible is an amazing book. I have grown to love it the more I read it, studied it, and learned about it. Taking time to get to know the Bible is worth the time and effort.
  18. Smoking chicken is the best way to have chicken. The same can be said about turkey.
  19. Northern Minnesota is one of the most beautiful places in the world.
  20. “Those who know that God is on the throne and is in control of human affairs can remain calm amid the evils and sorrows of the world.” ~ John Stott, What Christ Thinks of the Church 
  21. Ahsoka Tano is the best character in Star Wars, followed closely by Obi Wan Kenobi and Rex. This isn’t even debatable. 
  22. God created us for community. We cannot fully reflect His image alone. It is only in community that we can be who He intends us to be. — Larry Crabb
  23. Living with virtue makes us free from the consequences of bad choices that lead to our enslavement. When we are not enslaved we are free to help and serve those around us.
  24. "If we don't allow scripture to challenge us at places where our culture is doing it's best to squeeze us into a different pattern, what use is it?" - N. T. Wright; Paul For Everyone: The Prison Letters
  25. Our struggle isn't against people, but the spiritual forces that enslave us. Jesus came to set us free—our mission as the Church is to continue that work by loving our neighbors and making disciples. 
  26. Hayden Fry is an underrated coach who produced a great coaching tree.
  27. Even when Dad is in the room the kids will still ask for Mom.
  28. A healthy relationship with God requires prayer. We are moved to pray when we understand who God is and his love for us. We will give God our worries and cares when we believe He loves us.
  29. As Christians, our allegiance is to King Jesus, not political parties. When we engage in politics, our priority is to King Jesus and his mission of making disciples. 
  30. Being a father is not only a rewarding experience, but also a learning experience. I have learned a lot about myself, following Jesus, and God’s love by being a dad.
  31. One of the most powerful tools we have in spiritual formation is choosing. We are a product of our choices.
  32. The most powerful political action a Christian can take is prayer (1 Timothy 2:1-4). We need to pray for our leaders that they govern with wisdom and justice. 
  33. “For the follower of Jesus, servant leadership isn’t just an option, it’s a mandate.”— Ken Blanchard and Phil Hodges, The Servant Leader
  34. The true hero of The Lord of the Rings is Samwise Gamgee. He is the one we should try to imitate.
  35. Abiding fully means praying much. Prayer is the pulse of the spiritual life; it marks the outgoings of the heart towards God, and the incomings of divine power. Nothing can so effectively resist the devil as prayer. — Andrew Murray
  36. Forgiving others is an extension of the forgiveness we have received from God, who, through Jesus, forgave our sins and opened the way for reconciliation to happen.
  37. “However deep our sorrows or great our suffering, Jesus knows and cares.” ~ John Stott, What Christ Thinks of the Church
  38. My life is better when I listen to Jenny.
  39. Time is a precious resource, which means we need to be good stewards of it! Let's make the most of every moment and use our time wisely. We live wisely when we love God and love people.
  40. We are all being formed spiritually, whether or not we are intentional about it. It is worth the time to be committed to our Christian Spiritual formation.
  41. Being disciplined in how we live allows us to be good stewards of the miracle of salvation God has given for us.
  42. The year 1913 was the worst year in United States history.
  43. Our actions may not result in world peace or solve global hunger or diminish crime in our communities, but our choice to love, to forgive, and to serve can have a huge impact on those around us.
  44. Larry Bird is the greatest basketball player of all time. His games transcends all different eras.
  45. The true leader in the Church is the person who is loyal to Jesus. Doubts may come, hardships may arrive, and persecution may be present, but that leader remains committed to Jesus. No matter what, they will not forsake their King.
  46. "The Bible is there to enable God's people to be equipped to do God's work in God's world, not to give them an excuse to sit back smugly, knowing they possess all God's truth." ~ N. T. Wright, Simply Christian
  47. A Batman and James Bond team up would make for a great movie.
  48. We need to challenge ourselves. Doing hard things is crucial for our mental and physical health.
  49. Ron Paul is the greatest politician of my life time.
  50. A holy life is characterized by love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
  51. Smoked cream cheese is a great treat.

Tuesday, December 24, 2024

God With Us



During the Advent season, we’re invited to reflect on one of the most profound truths of our faith: God loves us!  This love is not abstract or distant, rather, it is personal, present, and powerful. It’s “God with us.”

The promise of Immanuel is not just a story for Christmas cards. It’s the bedrock of our hope, the anchor of our peace, the wellspring of our joy, and the ultimate expression of God’s love. Let’s explore together what this means for us today. 

The Promise of Immanuel

Isaiah 7:14 foretells the birth of Immanuel, meaning "God with us." This promise was given to King Ahaz during a time of fear and uncertainty, assuring him that God had not abandoned His people. While the immediate fulfillment pointed to deliverance in Ahaz’s time, the ultimate fulfillment came centuries later in Jesus Christ.

When life feels overwhelming, and circumstances seem to whisper that God is far away, Isaiah 7:14 reminds us otherwise: God is with us. His presence sustains us, offering hope when we’re tempted to give up.

The Fulfillment of God’s Presence in Jesus

The Gospel of John takes us deeper into the mystery of "God with us." John 1:14 tells us, “So the Word became human and made his home among us.”

This is not just poetic imagery—it’s staggering truth. The Creator of the universe stepped into His creation, not as a distant observer but as one of us. In Jesus, God’s love became visible, tangible, and present.

Love is demonstrated through presence. When we lose someone, it’s the absence of their presence that we grieve most deeply. God, knowing our need for His nearness, didn’t just send a message—He came Himself. Even knowing He would be rejected, Jesus chose to come, to dwell with us, and to show us love.

The Impact of God With Us

Ephesians 2:4-6 unveils the depth of God’s mercy and love. Through Christ, we’re not just forgiven; we’re made alive, seated with Him in heavenly places. This speaks to a restored relationship and purpose—living as reflections of His love in a broken world.

God’s love transforms us from the inside out, freeing us from fear and filling us with hope. It empowers us to push back against chaos and corruption by loving, serving, and forgiving others.

Celebrating the Greatest Gift

At the heart of Christmas is the astounding truth that God came near. He stepped into our world so we could step into His love. Relationships thrive through presence, and God’s greatest act of love was becoming present with us in Jesus.

This Advent season, we celebrate a love that moved heaven and earth to dwell among us. It’s a love that invites us into a restored relationship and gives us hope, peace, joy, and purpose.


A Challenge for the Season

Over the next two weeks, make it a point to spend time with the people in your life. As you do, pray that your presence may be a conduit of God’s love to others. Just as God showed His love through His presence, we can reflect that love in the way we show up for others.

Closing Prayer

Let’s thank God for His presence and commit ourselves to follow Jesus, living as reflections of His love in the world:

1. Thank God for Jesus, the ultimate expression of His love.

2. Ask for the empowerment to love others well.

3. Commit to walking in His ways, sharing His love through both word and action.


Closing Thought

The heart of Christmas is the promise of Immanuel—God with us. This truth transforms everything. It reminds us that we are not alone in our suffering, and we are not abandoned in our struggles. Instead, God has come near, offering His love, His presence, and His power to redeem.

As you celebrate this season, let the reality of God’s presence shape your heart and your life. May you experience His love deeply and share it boldly, knowing that through Jesus, the ultimate fulfillment of love is here—God is with us, now and forever.

Friday, December 20, 2024

Joyous Expectations



The Christmas season stirs a sense of joyous expectation. But how do we find joy during seasons of waiting or hardship?

Imagine the weight of knowing you might not make it out of a desperate situation alive. That was the reality Martin and Gracia Burnham faced during their 376 days of captivity in the Philippine jungle. Martin, a New Tribes missionary, had dedicated his life to following Jesus—just as he had encouraged others to do during his last devotional in his Kansas hometown. Quoting the words of Jesus from John 21:22, Martin had challenged his church, saying, “As for you, follow me.” He didn’t just say those words; he lived them.

As their captivity wore on, the Burnhams realized that freedom might never come on this side of heaven. But instead of despairing, Martin turned to Scripture for strength. One night, as they lay in a hammock under a makeshift tent, Martin said to Gracia, “The Bible says to serve the Lord with gladness. Let’s go out all the way. Let’s serve Him all the way with gladness.”

What a remarkable statement in the midst of hardship! The Burnhams prayed, recited Scripture, and sang hymns together, choosing to focus on God rather than their circumstances. Hours later, a rescue attempt tragically ended Martin’s life and left Gracia injured—but not without hope. Even in death, Martin’s commitment to serve God with gladness stood as a testament to the joy found in following Christ wholeheartedly, no matter the cost.

This story challenges us to ask: How do we respond when life gets hard? 
Do we serve God with gladness, even in the darkest seasons? 

True joy isn’t tied to our circumstances but to our decision to trust God and worship Him through every trial.

Psalm 100:2 calls us to “Serve the Lord with gladness.” That’s not just a command for easy times; it’s a way we are to live in all situations. We can choose to live with joy when we are  enjoying blessings or enduring hardship. The reason for our ability to glorify God with joy is based on our confidence in His promises and His presence is with us. Like Martin Burnham, let us commit to serving God all the way—with gladness in our hearts—no matter what life may bring.

Advent is the season that reminds us to reflect on Jesus’s first coming as a way to prepare for his second coming. Through Advent, we meditate on God’s promises and choose to respond with hope, peace, and joy. 

Unlike fleeting happiness, which is tied to circumstances, joy is a choice—a deep trust in God’s faithfulness, even when life is hard. As we explore Scriptures from Zephaniah, Luke, and Colossians, we discover that joy comes from trusting God to keep His promises while hoping for better things to come.

Joy in the Waiting

Sing for joy, Daughter Zion; shout loudly, Israel! Be glad and celebrate with all your heart…” (Zephaniah 3:14-17; CSB)

The prophet Zephaniah offers a vision of joy even amid waiting. Much of his prophecy speaks of judgment, yet in chapter 3, God gives His people hope. Zephaniah declares that a day is coming when judgment will end, enemies will be defeated, and God Himself will live among His people. This promise gives them a reason to rejoice, even while they wait.

For us, waiting on God’s promises can be difficult. Yet joy is found in trusting Him, even when circumstances feel uncertain. Zephaniah reminds us that God’s presence, salvation, and victory over fear are reasons to sing and rejoice. As followers of Jesus, we are called to find joy by anchoring ourselves in God’s promises—salvation, forgiveness, resurrection, and the hope of new creation.

Joy in God’s Fulfilled Promises

And Mary said: My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior…” (Luke 1:46-55)

Mary’s song, the Magnificat, flows out of her joy in seeing God’s promises fulfilled. After learning she would give birth to the Messiah, Mary visits Elizabeth, whose own miraculous pregnancy confirms God’s faithfulness. Mary’s song rejoices in God’s power to lift the humble, feed the hungry, and bring justice.

Mary and Elizabeth saw God at work, but their circumstances—Roman oppression and poverty—remained challenging. They chose joy because they trusted in God’s promises. Similarly, we need to train our hearts to see God’s work in our daily lives. Gratitude for even the smallest blessings opens our eyes to His faithfulness. By recognizing God’s provision and transformation in our lives, we can respond with joy and praise.

Joy in Redemption Through Christ

“… being strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, so that you may have great endurance and patience, joyfully…” (Colossians 1:11-14)

Paul reminds the Colossians to be joyful and grateful, even as they face false teachings and challenges in their faith. Why? Because God has rescued them from darkness and brought them into His Kingdom of light. This incredible gift of salvation is the ultimate reason for joy.

Gratitude is essential for living with joy. When we take God’s blessings for granted, we focus on what we lack rather than what we’ve been given. Practicing gratitude—especially for our salvation—grounds us in joy, even during difficult seasons. As Paul prayed for the Colossians, we too can pray for strength and endurance to live with joy, trusting in the redemption Christ has already secured for us.

Conclusion: Choosing Joy

Advent is a time to prepare our hearts by remembering Jesus’ first coming and anticipating His return. As we reflect on God’s promises, His presence, and His gift of salvation, we are invited to live with joy—a joy not dependent on circumstances but on the hope and trust we have in Christ.

Read Mary’s song in Luke 1:46-55 and spend time in prayer, committing to live with joy each day. Consider where you see God at work in your life and thank Him for His faithfulness.

Final Thought

Happiness comes and goes with life’s ups and downs, but joy is a choice grounded in Jesus. In all circumstances, we can rejoice because God is with us, His promises are true, and His redemption is secure. Let us choose joy, trusting in the One who has already brought us from darkness into His marvelous light.

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