Trusting God More Than Ourselves

“True surrender to God requires letting go of our own will and embracing His, trusting that His plan is better than ours. We need to trust Him more than we trust ourselves.”

Surrender is not a word we usually like. It feels like weakness, failure, or defeat. From childhood, we are taught to be strong, to stand our ground, and to fight for what we want. But the way of Jesus turns the world’s wisdom upside down. In God’s kingdom, surrender is not defeat—it’s freedom.

When Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane, He faced the most difficult test of surrender anyone could imagine. He knew the cross was before Him, and He wrestled with the cost: “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will”(Matthew 26:39). In that moment, Jesus modeled what true surrender looks like—laying down His own will in order to fully embrace the Father’s.

That’s the challenge we all face. We might not be staring at a cross, but we all carry desires, plans, and preferences that we cling to tightly. We tell ourselves we trust God, but when His direction cuts across our own, do we resist or release?

Why Letting Go Feels So Hard

The truth is, we tend to trust ourselves more than God. We think we know what’s best for our future, our families, our careers, our finances. We lean on our understanding because it feels safer and more familiar. Proverbs 3:5–6 tells us otherwise: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; in all your ways know Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Letting go is hard because it requires faith. It requires admitting that our perspective is limited and that God sees what we cannot. Faith asks us to believe that His plan is not only bigger than ours but also better.

What Happens When We Trust Him More

When we surrender, we discover the peace that comes from knowing we are not in control. The burden of carrying the future lifts because it is safe in God’s hands. This doesn’t mean life will be easy. Jesus’ surrender led Him to the cross. But it also led to resurrection, victory, and eternal hope.

The same is true for us. God’s plan may lead us through valleys, but He will always lead us toward life. Surrender doesn’t guarantee comfort—it guarantees His presence and His purpose. And in the end, that is far greater than anything we could arrange on our own.

Living Out Surrender Daily

Surrender is not just a one-time decision; it’s a daily posture. Here are three ways we can practice trusting God more than ourselves:

1. Pray honestly. Bring your desires, fears, and plans before God. Then echo Jesus’ words: “Not my will, but Yours be done.”
2. Obey quickly. When you sense God leading you through His Word or His Spirit, don’t delay. Obedience is where trust becomes real.
3. Release outcomes. We can do what God asks of us, but the results belong to Him. True surrender means letting Him define success.

The Invitation

Surrender is not about giving up on life; it’s about giving our lives to the One who gave His life for us. It’s about trading the illusion of control for the reality of God’s care.

The question we each need to ask is this: Do I trust God more than I trust myself?

When we can answer “yes,” not just with our lips but with our lives, we step into the freedom and peace that only surrender can bring.

Marriage Was God’s Idea

“Marriage was his idea, after all. God created marriage, and put the desire in our hearts… the hopeful truth is that marriage is something God cares deeply about—including your marriage.”

— John and Stasi Eldredge, Love and War

We form all kinds of relationships in life—at work, in our neighborhoods, within the church, and among family and friends. Yet among all of them, marriage stands apart. It’s a relationship built on a promise, a covenant meant to anchor a home and nurture the next generation.

For Christians, marriage is more than romance or a practical partnership. It is a sacred covenant established by God Himself. Because marriage is His idea, it comes with His wisdom for how we were meant to live, flourish, and love. It is not simply the union of two people, but a reflection of God’s design for companionship, intimacy, and mutual support.

This is why the Eldredges’ reminder matters: “Marriage was his idea, after all.” 

When we lose sight of that, we risk treating marriage lightly, and the consequences ripple out into our families and communities. Marriage is part of the structure God built into creation for human thriving.

From the very beginning, Scripture shows us God’s heart: “It is not good for the man to be alone.” God designed men and women in His image, uniquely designed to complement one another. The longing for companionship isn’t an accident—it’s God-given. And marriage is one of the primary places where that longing finds its deepest expression. Through marriage families begin, communities grow, and lives are shaped. None of us were made to live life in isolation.

Even with all the complexities that relationships bring, this truth remains: marriage is a gift from God. Across cultures and throughout history, marriage has been honored as a sacred institution—not invented by society, but woven by God into the fabric of human life.

Malachi 2:16 (NLT) reminds us of the seriousness of this covenant:

“For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel.

“To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,”

says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies.

“So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

In Malachi’s day, men held nearly all the power in marriage. God’s words protected vulnerable wives and called husbands to cherish, not discard. While our culture today looks different, the call remains the same: love faithfully. Love may draw a husband and wife together, but faithfulness is what keeps them together.

Just as God’s covenant holds through His faithfulness, a Christian marriage thrives when husband and wife remain steadfast—both to one another and to God. When faithfulness falters, love cannot endure.

In an age of temporary connections and shifting values, God’s design for marriage offers something we desperately need: a place of safety, steadiness, and growth. In a world wrestling with loneliness, anxiety, and brokenness, healthy and faithful marriages shine with quiet strength.

Marriage was—and still is—God’s idea. When we honor it, nurture it, and commit to it, we join Him in His good design for the flourishing of our families, our churches, and our world.

Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

Living a Fulfilled Life

When life feels uncertain or overwhelming, it’s easy to believe that a fulfilling life depends on our circumstances—on everything finally falling into place. We tell ourselves that once the job stabilizes, the relationship improves, or the finances settle down, then we will have peace. But Scripture tells a different story. True fulfillment doesn’t come from what is happening around us; it flows from what God is forming within us.

The apostle Paul describes this Spirit-formed life in Galatians 5:22–23:

“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”

This is not a checklist to complete or a standard to measure ourselves against. It is a description of the new life we have received in King Jesus. The fruit of the Spirit is not something we manufacture through effort or willpower; it is the natural result of the Holy Spirit’s transforming presence in our hearts. Just as a healthy tree bears fruit because life is flowing through it, a healthy spiritual life produces love, joy, and peace because the Spirit is at work within us.

Earlier in the chapter, Paul contrasts the works of the flesh with the fruit of the Spirit. In doing so, he is really describing two very different ways of living. One life is driven by self—shaped by desire, fear, pride, and control. The other is guided by the Spirit—rooted in trust, nurtured by grace, and flourishing in God’s faithful love. A Spirit-shaped life is not defined by external success or stability, but by inner transformation.

Jesus described eternal life not simply as life after death, but as a quality of life that begins now—a life marked by God’s presence and purpose. That’s why the fruit of the Spirit is more than moral guidance; it is visible evidence that eternal life is already taking root within us. When we live by the Spirit, we don’t just behave differently—we are being made new.

This transformation reshapes how we understand fulfillment. Instead of being tied to circumstances, fulfillment becomes anchored in the presence of the Spirit. We discover that joy can exist even in hardship, peace can remain in seasons of uncertainty, and love can endure even when life wounds us deeply. This is one of the great paradoxes of spiritual growth: the more deeply the Spirit forms us, the less power the chaos of the world has over us.

As the Spirit works within us, we begin to experience a deep, steady contentment that circumstances cannot steal away. Fulfillment becomes less about control and more about surrender—trusting that God is faithfully at work, producing something good, beautiful, and lasting in us. The fruit of the Spirit reminds us that God is far more concerned with who we are becoming than with our ability to get everything we want.

So perhaps the daily question we need to ask isn’t, “Are things going my way?” but rather, “What kind of fruit is growing in my life?” Are we becoming more patient, more gentle, more faithful? Are joy and peace taking root even when life feels unstable?

The Spirit is faithful to produce this fruit as we remain connected to Jesus—the true vine (John 15:5). Our calling is not to strive harder, but to stay rooted in King Jesus through prayer, Scripture, worship, and life together in community. As we do, the Spirit grows in us what no amount of effort ever could: a life marked by love, joy, peace, and the very character of God.

Fulfillment is not something we achieve; it is something we receive as the Spirit shapes us from the inside out. May we be people who live from that place—grounded in God’s love, bearing the Spirit’s fruit, and discovering a joy no circumstance can undo.

Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

Sunday Prayer: Growing in Spiritual Formation

Colossians 1:9-10 (NLT)

So we have not stopped praying for you since we first heard about you. We ask God to give you complete knowledge of his will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding. Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and your lives will produce every kind of good fruit. All the while, you will grow as you learn to know God better and better.

Gracious Father,

We come before You with thankful hearts, lifting our prayers day after day. We ask that You would fill us with the complete knowledge of Your will—shaping our minds and hearts with spiritual wisdom and understanding that comes from Your Spirit alone. Teach us to discern what pleases You, and give us courage to follow where You lead.

May the way we live bring honor to Your name and delight Your heart. Let our lives be fruitful in every good work—bearing evidence of Your grace through love, faithfulness, and obedience. As we serve You and others, help our actions reflect the character of Christ.

And as we walk with You each day, draw us into a deeper, richer knowledge of who You are. Help us grow not only in understanding, but in intimacy with You, knowing You more fully and trusting You more deeply. We pray all of this in Jesus’ name. Amen.








Paul’s Ponderings is a blog dedicated to reflecting on Scripture and encouraging believers to live out their faith with love and purpose.

5 Ways We Can Contribute to the Great Commission

Our calling to follow Jesus is not just a calling to salvation, but also a calling to join God in His great redemptive work.

Peter and Andrew heard this call:

Jesus called out to them, “Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people!” (Matthew 4:19, NLT)

To one degree or another, each Christian receives a similar call. This calling for all the disciples of Jesus is found in Matthew 28:18–20, the passage of Scripture we often call the Great Commission:

Jesus came and told his disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth. Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” (NLT)

The question that many of us who follow Jesus ask is: “What is my responsibility in carrying out the Great Commission?”

Here are five practical ways we can participate:

1. We love one another.

“Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” (John 13:35, NLT)

According to Jesus, the way we treat and serve other Christians shows the world what it means to follow Him. Most people are practical, and what they are looking for is whether or not something works. Our love for each other demonstrates that following Jesus is better than living in the hostility and rejection of the world.

2. We pray.

“And pray for me, too. Ask God to give me the right words so I can boldly explain God’s mysterious plan that the Good News is for Jews and Gentiles alike.” (Ephesians 6:19, NLT)

The apostle Paul asked for prayers to speak boldly about the Gospel. We may not always have the opportunities to share the Gospel directly, but we can pray for those who do. Through prayer, we join together in making disciples of all nations.

3. We use Scripture.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.” (2 Timothy 3:16, NLT)

The Bible is one of the ways God equips us to carry out the Great Commission. It isn’t up to us to convince people of the truth of the Gospel—Scripture and the Holy Spirit work together to bring conviction. Our role is to share Scripture with others in a way that is gentle, respectful, and full of grace.

4. We live faithfully.

“Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it.” (1 Peter 3:15, NLT)

By living a faithful life—recognizing Jesus as Lord—we demonstrate a hope that cannot be shaken. That hope will set us apart and lead people to ask about the source of our confidence. When they do, we have the opportunity to point them to Jesus. Never underestimate the power of a faithful life.

5. We use our gifts.

“God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.” (1 Peter 4:10, NLT)

Another way God equips us to participate in the task of making disciples is by blessing us with unique talents and resources. These are not given just for ourselves, but to serve others and point them to Christ. Being faithful with our gifts is one way we partner with God in His mission.

The Great Commission is a task that is bigger than any one person, but it is not beyond the reach of any one believer. God has invited each of us to take part in His mission. Whether through love, prayer, Scripture, faithful living, or using our gifts, we all have a role to play.

You are an important part of the work God is doing in the world. Don’t wait for the perfect moment—find a way you can contribute today, and do it.