The Choices That Define Us—and the One That Redeems Us

Ever catch yourself replaying a moment you’d give anything to redo? 

I do it all the time. 

Things like: the sharp response you gave to your kids, the chance to talk about Jesus to a co-worker that you let slip away, the choice to walk away from faith and live a party lifestyle for a few years, or the chance to do something special that you let get away.

I think, to one degree or another, all of us have those mental reruns. But here’s the question I would like you to consider: what if our past blunders don’t get the final say over our future?

Every day, we’re creating who we’re becoming by the choices we make—big, small, impulsive, or deliberate. These choices ripple out, shaping not just us, but also our little corner of the world.  So what happens when we mess up? When we cave to temptation, chase selfish desires, or stumble into sin? Are we stuck with the fallout forever? 

The answer is a big NO! 

The story doesn’t end with our failures—because God has a part to play in our lives as well.

I think Erwin McManus nails it in Uprising: 

The future is the sum total of all the choices that are made in the present and the past. Fortunately, that sum total includes the choices made by God. (p. 237)

Think about that idea for a moment. God isn’t some cosmic spectator, arms crossed, watching us struggle. He’s in it with us, steering things in ways we might not even notice. Our wrong turns? They don’t faze Him. His choices can rewrite our trajectory when we’ve lost the way.

Romans 8:5-8 (CSB) lays it out clearly: 

For those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit have their minds set on the things of the Spirit. Now the mindset of the flesh is death, but the mindset of the Spirit is life and peace. The mindset of the flesh is hostile to God because it does not submit to God’s law. Indeed, it is unable to do so. Those who are in the flesh cannot please God.

There is no doubt that when left to our own devices, we’re a mess. 

We can’t muscle our way into the life God has for us on sheer willpower. And that is okay!  

God doesn’t leave us in the chaos we created. He hands us His Spirit, His Word, His grace—everything we need to choose life over death.

And if you want proof of God’s wild commitment, Romans 5:6-11 (CSB) points us to the evidence: 

For while we were still helpless, at the right time, Christ died for the ungodly. For rarely will someone die for a just person — though for a good person perhaps someone might even dare to die. But God proves his own love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. How much more then, since we have now been justified by his blood, will we be saved through him from wrath. For if, while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God through the death of his Son, then how much more, having been reconciled, will we be saved by his life. And not only that, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received this reconciliation.

That’s not us earning our salvation. That’s God saying, “I’m all in—whether you’ve got it together or not.” He chose to rescue us, not because we’re impressive, but because He is love in action. 

The life and death of Jesus is the evidence we need to know that God is committed to us.

True, we can’t rewind the tape on yesterday’s mistakes. But we can choose to trust the choices God has already made for us. 

When we surrender to the guidance of the Holy Spirit, something changes. We’re not just fumbling through life on our own strength anymore—we’re being shaped by a God who has the power to redeem us, no matter who we are or what we have done. Our story isn’t a highlight reel of our screw-ups. It’s an amazing collaboration between our choices and His—a God who loves, restores, and refuses to let go.

What’s one choice you’re facing today? And what might it look like to let God’s voice weigh in?

Choosing the Right Path

 “I thought I didn’t have a choice about being the Batman. That Gotham City chose me to protect her. That is wrong. Ever since the night my parents were taken from me, I made the choice. It means that some of my heart’s desires may go unfulfilled… But many more are satisfied… It is a good choice.”

~ Bruce Wayne; Legends of the Dark Knight Halloween Special #1: Choices (Jeph Loeb, writer; Tim Sale, artist)

Life is filled with decisions, and the choices we make determine the direction our lives take. For Bruce Wayne, the choices he made led him to become Batman. While our choices might not lead to such a melodramatic lifestyle, they still profoundly shape what we do with our lives.

The choice to follow Jesus is one that will affect every area of our lives, much like Bruce Wayne’s decision to become Batman transformed every part of his life. The two are inseparable. To be a Christian is to surrender our entire lives to God’s will. Every action and every word is measured against the reality that we belong to God.

This surrender comes with its own sacrifices. Not all the desires of our hearts will be fulfilled. Sometimes, our desires can lead us away from God’s will and into sin. Other times, even good desires—relationships, comforts, ambitions—may be left behind to follow where God calls. Missionaries who leave behind friends, family, and familiar culture to share God’s love with the world exemplify this truth. To choose one path often means leaving other paths unexplored.

But the good life isn’t found in having all our desires met. It is found in giving ourselves to something far bigger than we are—something that makes a real difference in the world. That is why Jesus tells us that the life He offers is the full life (John 10:10). It isn’t full because every whim is satisfied. It is full because it leads to purpose, meaning, and fulfillment. Over time, as we walk with Jesus, we realize that many of our desires are fulfilled in unexpected ways—often desires we didn’t even know we had until God revealed them to us.

The Apostle Paul, reflecting on his life, wrote to Timothy near the end of his journey:

“As for me, my life has already been poured out as an offering to God. The time of my death is near. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. And now the prize awaits me—the crown of righteousness that the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give me on the day of His return. And the prize is not just for me but for all who eagerly look forward to His glorious return.” (2 Timothy 4:6–8, NLT)

Paul looked back on a life of hardship—beatings, shipwrecks, imprisonment, and more—and declared, “I have no regrets.” For Paul, following Jesus was worth everything. The sacrifices, the challenges, and even the losses were insignificant compared to the joy of knowing God. His life had been good because it drew him closer to the Lord, and death was not an end but the next step in their relationship.

Being Batman is not easy for Bruce Wayne, but it is the path that leads to his greatest desire. Similarly, being a Christian is not easy, but it is the path that leads to our ultimate and deepest desire. It is a good choice.

Choices that Shape Us

As human beings, our choices shape and form us into the people we are. With every decision, we are not just acting; we are becoming. This is why it is crucial to have high expectations for the younger generation and to encourage them to make choices that lead to maturity and responsibility. For Christians, this is especially significant, as we are called to become a different kind of people—a people who reflect the character of Christ.

The Apostle Paul reminds us of this transformative journey in Colossians 3:1-4, where he urges us to set our minds on heavenly things rather than earthly things. Similarly, in Galatians 5:16-26, he calls us to walk by the Spirit, not by the flesh. This walk involves living humbly, putting others ahead of ourselves, as seen in Philippians 2:1-11. These are not just isolated commands but reflections of the characteristics of Kingdom people—people who embody the values of God’s Kingdom.

Greg Boyd, in his book Satan and the Problem of Evil, offers an insightful perspective on this idea. He writes:

“Moral culpability is not just about people acting certain ways when they could have and should have acted differently. It’s more about people becoming certain kinds of people when they could have and should have become different kinds of people” (p. 122).

This quote challenges us to think beyond actions and behaviors and instead focus on identity and transformation. The Gospel calls us not just to do good but to become good—to be transformed by the renewing of our minds and hearts (Romans 12:2). As Christians, we are called to encourage others to become different kinds of people, ones who are shaped by the power of the Gospel and reflect Christ in all they do.

The Path to Becoming Kingdom People

How do we help others on this journey of becoming people who represent King Jesus in all that we say and do? Here are three key steps:

1. Proclaim the Way of Redemption
   Transformation begins with Jesus. As Paul writes in Romans 5:6-11, it is through God’s love and intervention that we are saved. Without God’s grace, we would have no hope. The message of redemption is central to becoming Kingdom people. By pointing others to Jesus and His sacrifice, we help them understand that real change starts with faith in Him.

2. Pray for Transformation
   The Apostle Paul’s prayer in Colossians 1:9-12 is a model for us. He prays that believers would be filled with the knowledge of God’s will and spiritual wisdom, so they might live lives worthy of the Lord. Our prayers for those we influence can have a powerful impact. Through prayer, we invite God to work in their lives, guiding them to become people who honor Him.

3. Provide Tools for Training in Godliness
   Transformation requires discipline. Paul writes in 1 Timothy 4:7, “Train yourself for godliness.” Spiritual disciplines such as meditation, prayer, worship, service, fasting, solitude, and celebration are tools that help us train our bodies and minds to resist the pull of the flesh and follow the Spirit. Teaching others these disciplines equips them to grow in their faith and character.

A Life of Becoming

Each of us is in the process of becoming. We are either growing more fit for God’s Kingdom or becoming more aligned with the kingdom of darkness. Our choices play a pivotal role in this process. As Christians, we have the responsibility to encourage and guide others toward making choices that reflect the character of Christ. By proclaiming the Gospel, praying for transformation, and teaching spiritual disciplines, we can help others become Kingdom people who shine as lights in the world.

Let us remember that our calling is not just to act differently but to be different—to become the kind of people who embody the love, humility, and holiness of Christ. This is the essence of our faith and the heart of our mission as followers of Jesus.

3 Actions for Making Wise Decisions

Our lives are shaped by the choices we make. Big decisions—like whether to marry or pursue a career—often steal the spotlight, but it’s the small, everyday choices that quietly steer our course. Together, these decisions—grand and mundane—form the map of our existence. Since every choice matters, we need a reliable foundation for making wise ones. Thankfully, Scripture offers exactly that.

Jesus teaches this truth vividly in Matthew 7:24-27 (NLT):

“Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse because it is built on bedrock. But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash.”

Here, Jesus ties wisdom to a life rooted in His words—a foundation strong enough to weather any storm. This echoes His Parable of the Sower in Matthew 13:1-23, where the “good soil” represents those who hear, understand, and bear fruit from God’s Word. The entire Bible, as the voice of Jesus, provides the wisdom we need for decision-making. But how do we build this foundation? From Jesus’ teachings, we can distill three essential actions: Listen, Believe, and Change.

1. Listen to Jesus

Listening isn’t passive hearing—it’s an active choice. We all hear the noise of life with functioning ears, but listening means tuning out distractions to focus on what matters. In Matthew 13:9, Jesus urges, “Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand.” Reading the Bible isn’t enough; we must approach it eager to grasp God’s intent and apply it to our lives. Like the disciples who sought clarity on the parable (Matthew 13:10), we should dig into Scripture with purpose, asking: What is God saying, and how does it shape my choices today?

2. Believe Jesus

Listening alone doesn’t build the foundation—belief brings it to life. In Matthew 13:18-23, Jesus explains that only the “good soil” truly receives the Word, understanding and trusting it. The foolish hear Jesus but dismiss Him—unconvinced of His identity as God’s Son or the truth of His words. Without belief, His teaching stays theoretical, never touching their decisions. The wise, however, trust Jesus fully. They see Him as the cornerstone of truth, and this faith guides their choices. Belief turns words on a page into a living compass for life’s big and small moments.

3. Change the Way We Live

Belief demands action. In Matthew 7, the wise don’t just hear—they obey. In Matthew 13:23, the good soil “produces a crop”—fruitful change that proves trust in Jesus. This step is where faith gets real: adjusting our lives to align with His will, even when it clashes with the world’s ways. The foolish hear but stay unchanged, like seed choked by thorns (Matthew 13:22)—distracted by worries or wealth. The wise let Jesus’ words reshape their priorities, habits, and decisions. Change shouts our trust louder than words ever could.

Living It Out

Every day, we face a barrage of choices—some snap decisions, others weighty deliberations. In our fast-paced world, we rarely have time to mull every option. That’s why a solid foundation matters. By listening to Jesus, believing His truth, and changing our lives to match it, we root ourselves in God’s Word. This isn’t just theory—it’s practical wisdom for navigating life.

Without this bedrock, we’re tossed by the shifting winds of culture and circumstance. With it, we stand firm, no matter the storm. The Parable of the Sower reminds us that God’s Word is a seed with transformative power—but only if we’re good soil. So, what kind of soil are you? The choice to listen, believe, and change starts today—and it’s a decision that shapes all the rest.

The Foundation for Choosing

 

“Our choices either move us toward God and all the pleasure that comes in Him or steer us away from Him to a life of shame and defeat.”  

— Erwin McManus, Seizing Your Divine Moment

The direction of our lives is shaped by the choices we make. While many of the decisions we make today may seem insignificant, some will have a lasting impact on the rest of our lives. This is why it’s crucial to have a strong foundation to guide us in making the right choices.

That foundation is the Bible—God’s Word.

As our Creator, God knows what is best for us. His Word is designed to help us navigate life in a way that demonstrates His character. This is how we live the life God created us to live.

Consider what Jesus said about building our lives on the foundation of His teachings:

“Therefore, everyone who hears these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain fell, the rivers rose, and the winds blew and pounded that house. Yet it didn’t collapse, because its foundation was on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and doesn’t act on them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. The rain fell, the rivers rose, the winds blew and pounded that house, and it collapsed. It collapsed with a great crash.” — Matthew 7:24-27 (CSB)

If we are going to follow Jesus, there are three key actions we must choose to take.

1. Choose to Listen. 

We must decide to listen to Jesus. We can easily choose to ignore His words and neglect reading God’s Word altogether. We might also hear God’s wisdom and choose not to act on it. But when we refuse to listen, we will miss out on the life God wants for us.

2. Choose to Trust.

Next, we must choose to trust what Jesus says. Trust is an essential element of faith. It moves us beyond simply believing that what God says is true to living in accordance with it. When we trust Jesus, we declare our confidence that His way of life is better than our own. As we trust Jesus and experience the life He offers, our faith grows, enabling us to trust Him more, even when life becomes difficult.

3. Choose to Change.

Finally, we must choose to change the way we live. It’s one thing to trust Jesus when His words make sense to us, but true obedience involves being willing to follow Him even when it challenges our own understanding. Change requires admitting, “I was wrong, and I’m ready to do things Your way.” Acknowledging our mistakes is never easy, but it is essential for spiritual growth. It is also the only way we can leave behind our old ways and commit to following Jesus’s path.

If we want to experience the fullness of life that God created us to enjoy, we need a foundation for making decisions. That foundation should be the Bible. Choose today to be a person of God’s Word.

Finding Freedom in Jesus

Galatians 5:1 (CSB)

For freedom, Christ set us free. Stand firm, then, and don’t submit again to a yoke of slavery.

We All Want Freedom

Freedom is what we all desire. It’s built into us. And for Americans, it’s even declared to be a basic right. We want to see people live free rather than under oppression.

But here’s the remarkable truth: God also desires that we be free. His desire for our freedom is revealed through the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

The good news of the gospel is that Jesus came to bring freedom—not just political or social freedom, but the deep spiritual freedom our hearts long for.

So, if we desire freedom and God desires that we be free, what’s the problem?

The Problem with Our Definition of Freedom

The problem is that our definition of freedom and God’s definition of freedom aren’t the same.

We tend to think of freedom as the ability to decide how we want to live—to be free from authority, expectations, or restrictions. We want the financial freedom to do what we want, when we want.

For us, freedom is defined by having complete control of our lives.

But according to the Bible, God defines freedom differently. In fact, the very people who experienced the freedom Jesus gives—Paul, James, and Peter—used a surprising word to describe themselves.

“Paul, a servant of Christ Jesus…” — Romans 1:1

“James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ…” — James 1:1

“Simeon Peter, a servant and an apostle of Jesus Christ…” — 2 Peter 1:1 

The word translated “servant” here literally means slave.

These men didn’t equate autonomy or self-rule with true freedom. They saw freedom as the ability to surrender fully to the authority of King Jesus.

In our culture, being under someone else’s authority sounds like bondage—but for them, it was the only path to real liberation.

When Freedom Becomes a Trap

Let me ask you a question: Is your life better or more complicated since you’ve been in charge of making all the decisions?

We live in a time and place with more freedom than almost any other generation. We can choose our careers, our spouses, our beliefs, and even how we spend our time and money.

Yet, even with all this freedom, many of us feel trapped.

We feel trapped in jobs we hate.

Trapped in marriages that have lost their joy.

Enslaved by debt, addictions, or the expectations of others.

Burdened by the pressure to keep up appearances.

When we define freedom as control, we often end up enslaved by our own choices. 

The Freedom Jesus Offers

Thankfully, Jesus offers a different kind of freedom—freedom for those of us trapped in the prisons of our own making.

He frees us from the curse and condemnation of the Law.

He frees us from the addictions and compulsions of sin.

He frees us to live in the spontaneity of love—for God and for people.

True freedom in Christ looks like this:

• Free to use our resources to help those in need.
• Free to turn our blessings into blessings for others.
• Free to hope when the world feels hopeless.
• Free to give our lives away to God and His Kingdom.

True Freedom Comes Through Surrender

So let me ask again:

Are you living a free life—or are you enslaved to your habits, addictions, or the expectations of others?

The only way to truly experience freedom is to surrender your life to Jesus.

He guides us out of the chains of bad choices and leads us into His Kingdom of freedom.

Freedom is found not by taking control, but by stepping off the throne of your life and letting Jesus be King.

That’s where true freedom begins.

Ordinary Moments

Have you ever felt like your life is slipping away?

I know that I have. Rather than accomplishing my dreams life seems to be swallowed up with the daily responsibilities that are required for pastoring and having a family. These are good things, but my dreams often need to be put on a back burner because of them.

In Seizing Your Divine Moment, Erwin McManus, a pastor and author, wrote, "This may sound too simple, but the abundant life that Jesus promises is ushered in through the choices we make in the ordinary moments of life."

This statement emphasizes the power of our choices and how they can shape our lives in profound ways.

When we think of "abundant life," we often envision a life filled with wealth, success, and happiness. However, the Bible offers a different perspective.

In John 10:10, Jesus says, "I came that they may have life and have it abundantly." This abundant life is not defined by material possessions or external circumstances, but by a deep and meaningful relationship with God. A relationship that is defined by trusting in and acting on God’s promises.

So, how do our choices influence this abundant life?

McManus suggests that it's the small, seemingly insignificant choices we make in the ordinary moments of life that ultimately shape our spiritual formation as we seek live as Jesus lived. These choices include how we respond to difficult situations, how we treat others, and how we prioritize our time and resources.

For example, if we consistently choose to respond with kindness and forgiveness instead of anger and bitterness, we cultivate a heart that reflects the character of God. If we prioritize our relationship with God through prayer and Bible study, we develop a deeper understanding of His love and purpose for our lives.

It's easy to overlook the impact of these everyday choices, but over time, they add up and shape the trajectory of our lives. As the saying goes, "little by little, a little becomes a lot."

Of course, making the right choices is not always easy. We are imperfect people who make mistakes and face different obstacles along the way. However, the good news is that we do not have to rely solely on our own strength and willpower. Through the power of the Holy Spirit and the Christian community we belong to, we have access to the wisdom, guidance, and strength we need to make choices that align with God's will.

The abundant life that Jesus promises is not something that is achieved through external circumstances or possessions. Rather, it's a life that is rooted in a deep and meaningful relationship with God, and it's ushered in through the choices we make in the ordinary moments of life. As we make choices that reflect God's character and prioritize our relationship with Him, we can experience the fullness of life that He has promised us.

The Bible is not an Answer Book

 I love the Bible. 

In fact, I believe that people who follow Jesus should be readers and students of the Bible. In the Bible we discover God, His character, and His will. 

Without the Bible we would not be able to follow Jesus or be the people God created us to be.

Last year I lead Bethlehem Church through The Story to give us a good overview of what the Bible is about. One of the things I constantly talked about through that series is that the Bible is gift from God. In all the 30 sermons I preached, I said, “We need to read, study, meditate on, and pray the Bible to be good stewards of the gift God has given to us.”

Even though I have a high view of Scripture, I also understand that it has limitations.

As modern readers of the Bible, we often approach it as if it has the answer to all of life’s questions. That is a primary reason why we  read and study the Bible: to have all the right answers.

Instead of viewing the Bible as an answer book, we need to see the Bible  as a tool to help create a worldview. It may not provide the answers to all the questions asked in our culture, but it does provide a framework that helps us create a Christian worldview.

I have been pondering how we use the Bible the past few days for a couple of reasons.

1. BibleProject has a podcast series that looks at ancient cosmology. One of the key points in the series is looking at how the Biblical account of creation is in dialogue and debate with the other ancient creation myths. 

Many Western Christians, for the past 120 years or so, have used the Bible to provide facts and answers about the beginning of the universe. The problem is that the Bible was not written to answer modern scientific questions. It was written to give God’s people a particular view of the world and to combat the pagan religious views of their neighbors.

Therefore, we shouldn’t expect the Bible to give us definitive answers about the how and when of creation, but we should expect it to give us an understanding about who God is and why He created the world.

2. Preston Sprinkle wrote:

If someone experiences and congruent between their biological sex and their gender, which one determines who they are—and why? What does the Bible say about this question?

That’s the problem. The Bible doesn’t directly ask and answer this question. There’s no verse in, say, Leviticus 28 that says, “If thy gender identity does not match thy biological sex, then thine body is who you really are.” Or whatever. (There is no Leviticus 28, in case you are flipping pages to check.) But the Bible does say quite a few relevant things about human nature and the importance of our biological sex which will position us to cultivate a theologically informed and biblically rooted answer to our question. (Embodied, p. 63)

After doing lots of research, Sprinkle admits that the Bible doesn’t contain the answers to the questions surrounding the transgender conversation. You can’t compile a list of verses that deal specifically with these issues. 

Not only is this true for the transgender conversation, but it is true for many of the questions we have today. Our culture is significantly different from the cultures that the Bible was originally written for. We shouldn’t expect to to have answers to our modern questions.

Since the Bible is God’s gift to His people, we can expect that it will give us a proper perspective to see the world.

It is important to make this shift away from seeing the Bible as an answer book to one that helps us create a Christian worldview.

God did not give us the Bible so we can have all the right answers. 

Rather, He gave us the Bible so we can become the right type of people. 

If we primarily use the Bible to have the right answers, to win arguments, and to point out other people’s sin then we are using the Bible wrong.

The Bible should help form us into the people God created us to be. One of the ways it does that is to create a proper perspective for us to see the world.

Let the Bible form your worldview.

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