{1 Corinthians 13:4-7; ESV}

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

The happiest couples we know have relatively few communication impasses: they are able to talk easily about difficult subjects; they feel they understand each other; they withhold very little from each other; and they rely on their ability to resolve conflicts. Their secret is not a list of communication “rules,” it is understandings this: Good communication is built first on who you are–and only later on what you do.
Before practicing communication “techniques,” these couples work on who they are as people.

You can read articles and books, attend workshops, and see counselors that will teach you communication skills, but if you do not first focus on the qualities you possess as a partner, your efforts will be of little consequence. To enjoy rich communication and a rock-solid marriage, three personal qualities must be present: warmth, genuineness, and empathy.

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot, Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, p. 83

Questions to Consider:

  • Why is communication so vital to a successful marriage?
  • What is the link between personal character and good communication?
  • How can you improve on your communication?


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